Module 1-2 Years Old

Unskoolify: Maa Ki Mamta Ka School

(The School of a Mother’s Love)

Age Group: 12–24 Months (1–2 Years)

Audience: Indian Parents and Caregivers

Tone: Warm, Emotional, Authoritative, Mother-Friendly

Format: Structured eBook for Digital Publication (PDF/Print-ready)

Preface

Becoming a parent transforms life into an incredible journey of love and learning. In India, we often say “Maa ki mamta ka school,” which means “the school of a mother’s love.” This book embraces that philosophy – that a mother’s (or any loving caregiver’s) everyday affection, care, and guidance are a child’s first and most important education. Research shows that early brain development is directly influenced by 1

babies’ daily interactions with their caregivers . In other words, your love and daily rituals are building your toddler’s brain and heart in profound ways.

Unskoolify is a parenting approach that blends traditional wisdom with modern, research-backed knowledge – “un-schooling” in the sense of learning from life and love rather than formal academics at this tender age. This book, “Unskoolify: Maa Ki Mamta Ka School,” is designed especially for parents of 1 to 2- year-olds. It will guide you month-by-month through the second year of your child’s life (Month 12 up to Month 24), offering a warm narrative, expert insights, and practical tips. Our goal is to support you in nurturing your toddler’s emotional, physical, social, and language development through everyday moments.

Inside, you’ll find a structured yet heartwarming flow for each month. Every chapter covers key development milestones, insights into emotional, physical, social, and language growth, and helps you establish healthy daily routines and family rituals. We include suggestions for age-appropriate toys, books, and games to enrich playtime and learning. Each chapter also features “Maa ki Class” – weekly expert reflections – bite-sized tips or focus points for each week, so you can gradually introduce positive practices. You’ll read real-life examples of common toddler scenarios (and mistakes to avoid), helping you feel that you are not alone and offering guidance on what to do when things get challenging. We’ve also outlined charts, trackers, and action plans you can use (or adapt) to monitor your child’s routines and progress – from milestone checklists to sample schedules and activity plans. These tools will be useful as visual aids (to be designed as charts/graphics later) to keep track of your little one’s growth and your parenting strategies.

The tone throughout is warm and encouraging – like a knowledgeable friend or elder guiding you – combined with the credibility of expert advice. We understand the Indian context of parenting: the joy of joint families, the richness of our languages and traditions, and sometimes the pressure of well-meaning advice from all corners. This book respects those cultural nuances. You’ll find references to Indian family life, from involving grandparents in rituals to using familiar household items as toys. We also incorporate

modern parenting research (on sleep routines, nutrition, screen time, etc.) in an easy-to-understand way. Every recommendation is made with flexibility in mind, since each child is unique. Take what fits your child’s temperament and your family’s style.

How to Use This Book: You can read it cover to cover, or jump to the chapter that matches your child’s current age. Each chapter (month) stands on its own with specific guidance. We suggest reading ahead a little, so you know what’s coming next and can be prepared. The Table of Contents will help you navigate to topics of interest. Keep this book handy as a reference throughout the year. It’s like your personalized parenting curriculum for the “classes” taught by your child’s growth and your loving care. And remember – you are the expert on your child. Use our suggestions as a framework, and feel free to adapt them.

As you flip through these pages, imagine a supportive hand on your shoulder. We’re with you through the giggles, the messes, the mid-night wakeups, and the heart-melting moments of your toddler’s second year. Let’s celebrate the marvel of watching your baby turn into a curious, playful toddler. With your mamta (motherly love) as the guiding light, and our structured guidance as a map, you are equipped to make the second year a fulfilling, joyous learning journey – for your child and for you as a parent. Welcome to Unskoolify – where love is the first lesson and every moment is an opportunity to learn.

Table of Contents

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Preface

Chapter 1: Month 12 – First Steps into Toddlerhood

Chapter 2: Month 13 – Growing Curiosity

Chapter 3: Month 14 – Little Explorer Emerges

Chapter 4: Month 15 – Blossoming Independence

Chapter 5: Month 16 – Adventures in Movement

Chapter 6: Month 17 – New Words and New Moods

Chapter 7: Month 18 – Big Emotions & Big Strides

Chapter 8: Month 19 – Imitation and Imagination

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Chapter 9: Month 20 – Toddler on a Mission

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Chapter 10: Month 21 – Language Leap

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Chapter 11: Month 22 – Emerging Personality

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Chapter 12: Month 23 – Almost Two

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Chapter 13: Month 24 – Terrific Two’s Debut

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Afterword – The Journey Ahead

Chapter 1: Month 12 – First Steps into Toddlerhood

(Your baby is 12 months old – Happy First Birthday! Welcome to toddlerhood. In this chapter, we’ll explore the exciting changes as your little one transitions from baby to toddler.)

At 12 months, your baby might still feel like your little infant in your arms, but you’ll soon notice early signs of independence. Many children take their first steps around this time or will in the coming weeks – a monumental milestone that brings both joy and a bit of apprehension for parents. Emotionally, your one year-old still needs plenty of reassurance and cuddles, even as they begin to venture away for a few

moments to explore. This age is a beautiful blend of baby-like innocence and toddler curiosity. Let’s look at what you can generally expect and how you can support your child this month.

Child Development Milestones (Month 12)

By the end of the 12th month (around your child’s first birthday), many babies will reach these milestones:

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Physical: Pulls up to stand and may cruise (walking holding onto furniture) . Some children may take independent steps or even walk a bit – though it’s normal if they still prefer crawling. They can sit down from standing and crawl rapidly. Fine motor-wise, your toddler can use a pincer grasp 3

(thumb and forefinger) to pick up small bits of food . They may also start drinking from a cup (with your help) and attempt to self-feed finger foods.

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Emotional/Social: Shows stranger anxiety or shyness with new people – clinging to familiar family

members in unknown situations. They love interactive games like peek-a-boo and pat-a-cake, engaging you with laughter. Your baby may extend an object to show it to you (their way of sharing joy). They seek your attention and approval, and might cry or look concerned if someone nearby is upset (early empathy).

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Language/Communication: Babbles with inflections that sound like mini-conversations. First

words often emerge around now – most 12-month-olds can say “mama” or “dada” specifically to the 4

correct person . They might have one or two other simple words like “ba” for ball or “hi.” Even with few spoken words, they understand much more. A 12-month-old can respond to simple 5

requests like “Come here” or stop when you say “no” (at least briefly!) . They also use gestures – waving “bye-bye,” shaking head for no, or pointing at things they want.

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Cognitive/Play: Very curious and explorative. They will bang, drop, and throw objects to see what happens. They may look for a toy you’ve hidden under a blanket (object permanence is established). They enjoy putting things in and out of containers repeatedly. Imitation begins – you might catch your toddler trying to brush their hair or press phone buttons after watching you.

(Keep in mind each child develops at their own pace – some will do these things a little earlier or later. These milestones are guidelines to help you observe and celebrate your child’s growth.)

Emotional Development (12 Months)

Your one-year-old is blossoming emotionally but is still very much a baby in terms of needing comfort and security. Separation anxiety can peak around 12 months – your child may protest when you leave or stick to you like glue in unfamiliar environments. This is because they now clearly understand who their primary caregivers are and prefer them over others. To support their emotional development:

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Provide Reassurance: When your toddler clings or cries as you leave, offer calm reassurance. Say

goodbye with a confident smile, and establish a parting ritual (like a special hug or a goodbye wave at the door) to help them feel secure. Consistency will teach them that you always come back. •

Affection and Warmth: Continue with plenty of cuddles, lullabies, and one-on-one play. Love is still their biggest emotional need. Responding to their cries or distress consistently helps them develop a secure attachment. These loving interactions aren’t “spoiling” your child – they’re building their 1

confidence and emotional resilience .

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Social Awareness: Your child is beginning to notice and react to others’ emotions. If they see another baby crying, they may look concerned or even cry too. Encourage this budding empathy by

gently explaining emotions: “Aw, the baby is sad. Let’s be gentle.” They won’t fully understand yet, but your soothing tone teaches them empathy and compassion in the long run.

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Stranger Anxiety: If your toddler is wary around strangers or even relatives they don’t see often, respect their feelings. Let them warm up in their own time. You can model friendliness by speaking warmly to the new person while holding your child. Over time, repeated positive encounters will lessen their fear. Never force your child to go to someone’s lap if they are uncomfortable – give them time to observe and feel safe.

Physical Development (12 Months)

This month is typically a turning point for physical development – many babies take their first independent steps around one year. Be prepared for a mobile little explorer! If your child isn’t walking yet, don’t worry – normal ranges vary (some walk at 10 months, others at 15 months). They are likely cruising (walking holding furniture or your hands) and getting more stable.

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Walking and Balance: You’ll notice your child pulling up to stand often and testing letting go. To encourage walking, give them safe opportunities: stand or kneel a few steps away with arms open, encouraging them to come to you. Use a push toy or a sturdy item (like a heavy push cart or even a dining chair you slide) that they can hold and push around for practice. Celebrate their attempts, even if they plop down – your applause and smile will motivate them. Ensure you baby-proof at a new level now (more on that in the Action Plan) since a walking baby can reach new heights and hazards. •

Gross Motor Skills: Aside from walking, 12-month-olds are improving at climbing and coordination. They might crawl up stairs if given the chance (always supervise closely near any stairs!). Many love to dance by bouncing or swaying to music – a fun way to exercise those little muscles. Continue to offer floor time for crawling and climbing over pillows or safe obstacles to build strength.

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Fine Motor Skills: Your toddler’s finger dexterity is developing. They can pick up tiny bits of food

(cheerios, etc.) using their thumb and forefinger (pincer grasp). They may point with their index finger to objects of interest. Encourage fine motor practice by giving them finger foods to self-feed, chunky crayon pieces to scribble (they will mostly make dots/marks now), or stacking rings to place on a post. They also enjoy turning pages of board books (often multiple pages at once). Be patient – ripping books is common at this age; choose sturdy board books.

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Self-Care Skills: Around one year, toddlers often try to participate in care routines. Your child may attempt to hold a spoon or drink from a cup by themselves. It will be messy, but it’s an important learning process. Use a toddler-sized spoon and a two-handled sippy cup or an open cup with your assistance. Let them practice feeding with soft foods like yogurt (maybe at the end of a meal so spills are okay). They might also help a bit during dressing – like pushing an arm through a sleeve when 6

you start it . Applaud their efforts to encourage more attempts.

Social Development (12 Months)

At one year old, your child is very social with family members and caregivers, yet may be shy or cautious around others. They thrive on interactive play and are learning the basics of social interaction from you. Key aspects of social development now include:

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Interactive Play: Games like peek-a-boo, pat-a-cake, and hide-and-seek (with objects) are hugely entertaining. Your toddler isn’t really playing with other children yet (that will come later), but they enjoy playing with you. They love being the center of attention during family playtime. Make time

each day to sit on the floor and play simple games. This not only delights them but also teaches turn-taking and social cues (e.g., in pat-a-cake you clap, then I clap).

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Imitation: Your little one is starting to imitate actions – this is actually a social skill because it’s how they join “the group” and learn. They might pretend to talk on a phone, mimic stirring a spoon in a cup, or copy you brushing your hair. Encourage this by including them in safe household tasks: give them a spare toothbrush when you brush yours, or a plastic bowl and spoon while you cook. They feel proud to “help” and be like you.

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Joint Attention: Social development at this age also means learning to share focus. When your toddler points to show you something, or brings you a toy, that’s joint attention – they want you to look at the same thing and enjoy it together. Always acknowledge these bids for interaction: “Oh, you found the ball! Yes, it’s a red ball. Shall we roll it?” This reinforces their communication and shows them you value what they are showing you.

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Family Bonds and Rituals: Your baby likely has strong attachments not only to you but also other

close family (dad, siblings, grandparents if around). Encourage these bonds with family rituals – for example, let grandma sing a special lullaby at bedtime when she visits, or involve your toddler in touching elders’ feet for blessings in a playful way during a birthday celebration. These interactions build social familiarity and cultural grounding. Just remember, at 12 months, your child may also experience stranger anxiety even with relatives they don’t often see. Keep those interactions gentle and let the child stay in your arms until they feel secure. Over time, repeated warm encounters will expand their circle of trust.

Language Development (12 Months)

This is the exciting start of verbal communication. By 12 months, most toddlers have a few “proto-words.” You might hear “mama,” “dada,” or a version of their own name. They might use the same sound consistently for something they want (like “ba” for ball or bottle). Comprehension, however, far outpaces spoken ability. Here’s how to nurture their language:

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Speak and Narrate: Keep talking to your child throughout the day. Describe what you’re doing: “Mama is washing the apple. Now we cut it. Here’s a piece for you!” They absorb all these words and tone. Use simple sentences and clear pronunciation. It might feel one-sided, but trust that your toddler is soaking it in and will surprise you with words soon.

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First Words: Encourage their attempts to speak. If they say “da” while pointing at the dog, you can

respond, “Yes, that’s the dog.” Reinforce and expand without pressuring. Celebrate any clear word – clap and smile so they know it’s a big deal. Around this age, common first words include names (mama, dada, baba), greetings (hi, bye), or favorite objects (ball, car). Some children even learn a fun one like “uh-oh!” by 12 months.

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Gestures and Baby Sign: Your toddler communicates a lot through gestures – pointing, reaching, nodding, shaking head. Respond to these as you would to words. If they point to the cookie jar and grunt, say, “You want a cookie? Okay, let’s have a piece.” This reinforces that communication works. Some parents introduce a few baby sign language signs (like “more,” “milk,” “all done”) around this age to reduce frustration. If you do, use the sign and say the word; your child might try the sign or speak the word eventually. It’s not necessary, but it can be helpful for some pre-verbal toddlers to express themselves.

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Listening and Following Directions: By one year, toddlers can usually follow a simple one-step

instruction, especially with a gesture. For example, “Please give me the ball” (hold out your hand). Practice this in a fun way: “Can you bring Papa your shoe?” Make it a game. They also understand familiar phrases like “come here,” “no” (though they won’t always obey!), “drink water,” or “where is

Mama?” Use consistent short phrases for routines (e.g., “Time for bed, say goodnight”). Repetition helps language sink in.

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Bilingual Environment: Many Indian households are bilingual or multilingual. Rest assured, babies

can handle multiple languages. Speak to your child in the language you are most comfortable in (mother tongue or English or both). They might mix words from Hindi and English, for instance, and that’s perfectly okay. They’ll eventually sort it out. If you say “paani” and another family member says “water,” your child is likely learning both mean the same thing. The key is to give them rich language exposure and not worry if they blend languages in one sentence. It’s actually a sign of skill, not confusion.

Daily Routines & Family Rituals (12 Months)

By the end of the first year, having some daily routine in place becomes very helpful for both toddler and parent. Children – even young toddlers – thrive on routine, and a predictable schedule gives them a sense of 7

security . If you haven’t already, now is a great time to establish regular patterns for meals, naps, and bedtime. Here are some routine tips and family ritual ideas for this age:

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Sample Daily Routine: While every family’s schedule is different, a sample routine for a 12-month old might look like:

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Morning (7 AM): Wake up and cuddle time. Milk feed (breastfeeding or bottle of milk) followed by breakfast (soft finger foods or cereal).

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Mid-Morning: Active playtime. This is when your toddler has a lot of energy – a good time for floor play, listening to music, or going for a walk outside. Around 9:30–10 AM, a morning nap (if they still take two naps, which many 12-month-olds do). Nap might be 1 to 1.5 hours.

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Noon: Lunch with the family. At 12 months, toddlers can eat many of the same foods as adults (just less salt and spice). Include them at the table in a high chair. This family lunch can become a cherished ritual – even if it’s messy, your toddler learns by watching you eat. After lunch, quiet play or story time.

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Early Afternoon: Afternoon nap around 2–3 PM (usually the longer nap of the day, about 1–2 hours). •

Evening (4–7 PM): Playtime with family. Perhaps older siblings or dad are home – a good time for interactive play. Early dinner by 7 PM. Keep evenings calm and screen-free for the child; maybe a stroll outside or play on the balcony.

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Bedtime (7:30–8 PM): Follow a consistent bedtime routine: for example, bath -> change to night clothes -> bedtime story or lullaby -> goodnight kiss. Research shows that a predictable bedtime routine (snack, bath, story, cuddling) not only helps babies sleep better, it also supports their overall 8

development . Aim for about 11–12 hours of sleep at night, with nighttime awakenings gradually reducing (some 12-month-olds still wake for a feed; others sleep through).

Remember, this is just a template. Your baby’s nap lengths and meal timings may vary. The key is consistency: try to have events in the same order each day (wake, eat, play, nap, etc.). If your child is still taking two naps, they might drop to one nap in the coming months – watch their cues. Routines create a 9

rhythm that makes toddlers feel safe because they know what’s coming next .

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Family Rituals: At one year, you can start simple family rituals that enrich your child’s sense of

belonging. For example, family mealtime (even if the toddler eats a little earlier, you can sit with them or at least have a small snack so they feel included). Perhaps have a “morning song” you sing

when they wake up, or a prayer ritual (many Indian families do a short prayer or aarti in the morning/evening – you can let your toddler ring a small bell or clap along). Bedtime reading is a ritual that combines bonding and learning – even a 5-minute storybook each night signals sleep time and builds language skills. Rituals around cultural activities are lovely at this age: involve your toddler in festivals (letting them light a diya with supervision, or play with flower petals during Diwali, etc.). These routines and rituals become the emotional anchors of your child’s day and connect them with family values.

Adaptability: While maintaining routine, also allow some flexibility. Life with a toddler can be

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unpredictable – teething, illness, travel, or events can throw off schedules. Don’t worry if a day or two doesn’t go as planned. Get back to your rhythm when you can, and your child will readjust. The idea is a balanced structure that guides your day, not an inflexible timetable.

Suggested Toys, Books & Games (12 Months)

At 12 months, your child learns through play. The right toys and books can stimulate their curiosity and skills. Here are some suggestions suited for this age (and a few months ahead), blending fun and developmental value:

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Push/Pull Toys: Now that your baby is attempting to walk, toys they can push are fantastic. Examples: a solid push wagon or a toy stroller, a wooden trolley with blocks, etc. They help with

balance and confidence in walking. Pull toys (like a little toy animal on a string) also delight toddlers as they practice walking and cause-and-effect (pull it and it follows).

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Shape Sorters & Stacking Toys: Classic shape sorter boxes (with cut-out shapes to fit blocks in) are great for hand-eye coordination – though at 12 months your child may mostly just bang the pieces or ask you to put them in. That’s fine; they’ll grow into the sorting skill over the coming months. Stacking rings or stacking cups are also excellent. At first, they may just chew them or knock down a tower you build (that’s a fun game in itself!). Eventually they will learn to stack a few themselves.

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Balls: A simple soft ball provides endless fun. Roll a medium-sized ball back and forth on the floor –

this teaches social turn-taking and motor control. Soft spiky balls or textured balls are great for sensory play (feel the texture, chase the rolling ball). By around 12–15 months many toddlers learn to throw a ball (often not in the direction intended!), so soft lightweight balls are safest indoors.

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Board Books: Sturdy board books are a must. Look for ones with bright pictures of everyday

objects or animals. At this age, books with one picture per page (like a ball, a cat, a cup) help them learn first words. Also, lift-the-flap books are a huge hit (e.g., a flap to reveal a hidden baby or animal). Interactive books (like touch-and-feel books with various textures) engage their senses. A few suggestions: “First 100 Words”-type picture books, animal sound books (“The cow says Moo”), or simple storybooks like “Dear Zoo” (which has flaps). Reading these with your child – even if they only pay attention for a minute or two at a time – builds their love for books.

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Musical Toys: Many one-year-olds love music and rhythm. Simple musical instruments like a

xylophone, maracas (shakers), or a baby drum can let them create sounds (and noise!). A musical keyboard with big keys or a toy phone that plays songs are also engaging. Traditional Indian musical toys like a small dafli (tambourine) or ghungroo (ankle bells you can tie lightly on their wrist to shake) can be fun during dance-play. Always supervise if any small parts.

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Pretend Play Items: They are a bit young for elaborate pretend play, but seeds can be sown. A doll

or stuffed animal is great at this age – you’ll see your toddler hug or rock it, imitating how you cuddle them. Simple household role-play like a toy telephone (or an old non-working mobile phone)

encourages babbling “conversations.” Even a set of plastic cups and a spoon can become a tea party in their imaginative world.

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Bath Toys: Bath time can be play time. Floating rubber ducks, cups to pour water, or a waterproof

book can make baths enjoyable and sensory-rich. This also builds a positive routine if the bath is part of bedtime wind-down. Just remember never to leave them unattended in water, even for a moment.

Games & Activities:

- Play peek-a-boo behind a cloth or around a corner – it never gets old for a one-year-old, because they’re solidifying the idea that you disappear and come back. It also helps with separation anxiety in a playful way. - Try a “treasure box”: fill a low basket with safe household objects (wooden spoon, fabric scraps, empty safe containers). Let them pull things out, examine, bang them together. This kind of exploration is often more interesting to babies than fancy toys!

- Ball games: Sit on the floor a few feet apart and roll a ball to each other. Clap and praise when they attempt to roll it back.

- Nursery rhymes with actions: like “Clap your hands”, “Wheels on the Bus”, or Indian rhymes such as “Machli Jal Ki Rani” with hand motions. Your toddler will start imitating the gestures (clapping, etc.), which is great for coordination and language rhythm.

- Follow the leader: crawl and encourage them to chase you; then switch and crawl after them. Or make an obstacle course with pillows to climb over – this makes physical exercise fun.

At this age, play is simple but endlessly repetitive. Your child may love putting wooden blocks into a bowl and dumping them out over and over. That’s normal – repetition is how they master skills. Even short bursts of focused play (5-10 minutes) are beneficial. Most of all, join them in play whenever you can. Your presence and enthusiasm make any game more enriching.

Maa ki Class: Weekly Expert Reflections (Month 12)

To help you gradually introduce good practices, here are four bite-sized tips or “lessons” – one for each week of this month. Think of these as gentle challenges or focuses for the week, straight from experts and experienced moms:

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Week 1 – Baby-Proofing Upgrade: Now that your baby is possibly on the move (cruising or walking), take a fresh look at your home’s safety. Get on your knees to see the world at their level. Cover open electrical outlets, use corner guards on low tables, put away small chokable objects. Move breakables and chemicals to higher shelves. Installing safety gates at stairs or kitchen entry might be wise. Expert tip: Most accidents (bumps, falls) happen in this early walking phase; a safe environment allows your toddler to explore freely and you to relax a bit. Make your home a loving and safe “school” for them.

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Week 2 – Words Everywhere: This week, focus on talking more with your little one. Aim to narrate at least one routine every day (like diaper changes or meal prep). Also name objects as you hand them to your toddler: “Here’s your cup,” “Take your ball.” Repetition helps words stick. Try to use positive language – instead of just “No touch” for everything (which they hear a lot!), also tell them what they can do: “This is Mama’s book, not for baby. Here, play with your book.” It’s okay to mix in your mother tongue and English – the goal is rich vocabulary exposure. Research shows reading and 10

talking to young children greatly boosts their language development , so narrate and read whenever possible.

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Week 3 – Start a Bedtime Routine: If you don’t have a consistent bedtime pattern yet, start this week. For example: bath -> pajamas -> goodnight to family -> story -> lullaby -> lights off. Keep it

roughly the same each night. It might take time for your child to catch on, but eventually this sequence will cue them that it’s time to sleep. Evidence indicates that regular bedtime routines lead 11 9

to better sleep in toddlers and even improve their overall sense of security . Plus, these moments become cherished calm times in an otherwise busy day. If your family does an evening prayer or namaste to elders, integrate that quietly. Week by week, protect this routine – it will pay off in easier bedtimes as they grow.

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Week 4 – Encourage First Steps (Safely): This week’s focus is on motor confidence. If your baby hasn’t started walking yet, help them practice in a fun way. Hold their hands and let them lead you around the house. Place a favorite toy on the couch to prompt them to cruise along furniture. When you’re at the park or an open safe space, let them stand and feel grass under their feet (you’ll be right behind them for support). If they are already walking, give them opportunities to walk more (e.g., short distances holding your hand rather than always carrying them). Ensure they have proper footwear – barefoot at home is fine for traction, but outdoors use lightweight, flexible-soled shoes. Celebrate every attempt. And remember, some tumbles will happen – keep calm; your reaction often guides their reaction. A clap and “Oops, you fell, but you’re okay!” with a smile can prevent tears. Patience is key; by the end of this month or a few months later, they’ll likely be toddling all over!

Real-Life Example & Parenting Mistakes to Avoid (Month 12)

Real-Life Example – “A Step and a Fall”: Priya, a first-time mom, was overjoyed when her 12-month-old son Aarav pulled himself up and wobbled into his first two independent steps between the sofa and coffee table. She clapped loudly in excitement. Startled, Aarav promptly sat down and began to cry. Priya realized that her loud cheer, though well-intended, had scared him. She quickly picked him up, gave a hug, and softly said “It’s okay, you did it! Mama’s here.” The next time Aarav tried to stand, Priya smiled and held out her hands calmly. He let out a delighted giggle and stepped toward her – one, two, three steps – before tumbling into her arms. Priya’s heart swelled with pride and relief. This small moment taught her an important lesson: encouragement is best given in a gentle, reassuring way that matches the child’s temperament.

In the whirlwind of your baby turning one, it’s easy to slip up or feel unsure. Here are some common parenting mistakes to watch out for this month, and tips on avoiding them:

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Mistake 1: Comparing Your Child to Others – It’s tempting to compare your 12-month-old’s skills to

the neighbor’s baby who is already walking or saying words. Constant comparison can create unnecessary worry. Avoidance Tip: Remember that every child’s timeline is unique. Focus on ranges of development, not exact ages. If your friend’s child walks at 11 months and yours at 13 months, both are normal. Instead of comparing, celebrate your child’s personal milestones and keep an eye on general patterns. If you have genuine concerns (e.g., not pulling to stand by 12 months or no sounds at all), consult your pediatrician rather than other parents.

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Mistake 2: Letting Safety Lapse (Underestimating the New Mobility) – Now that your infant is

turning into a toddler, their ability to get into mischief skyrockets. A common mistake is not updating baby-proofing. For example, leaving cleaning fluids in a low cabinet that was safe when they were immobile can be dangerous now. Avoidance Tip: Toddler-proof your home thoroughly this month (as discussed in Week 1 of Maa ki Class). Also, supervise diligently especially around new hazards like stairs, electrical cords, or reachable hot items. Many parents also forget to adjust the crib mattress to the lowest level – a 12-month-old can suddenly turn into an escape artist by climbing rails. Secure your home so it’s a safe exploration zone.

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Mistake 3: Inconsistent Discipline (“No” without meaning it) – Around one year, babies start

testing boundaries, like touching the shoe rack after you said “no.” A common mistake is laughing it off sometimes and scolding other times, which sends mixed signals. Avoidance Tip: Though discipline at this age is very gentle and basic, consistency is key. If something is off-limits (say, the trash can or a decorative piece), child-proof it or consistently redirect them every single time. Use a firm tone (“No, not for baby”) and then distract them with a toy elsewhere. If you occasionally turn it into a game (chasing and laughing), they’ll be more encouraged to repeat it. It’s hard, because one year-olds can be adorably naughty, but setting consistent limits now makes it easier later.

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Mistake 4: Overuse of Screens for Distraction – It can be very tempting to hand your one-year-old

a smartphone with a video to keep them still during meals or to calm a fuss. However, at this age, screen time can do more harm than good. Avoidance Tip: The American Academy of Pediatrics 12

recommends avoiding screen time (except video calls) for children under 18 months . Instead of screens, use other calming tactics: engage them with a toy, sing a song, or simply allow them to fuss briefly and redirect their attention. If you absolutely need to use a screen (say, a short video call with grandparents or an emergency situation), watch together and keep it minimal. Co-viewing is far 13

better than solo screen time . Going forward, try to cultivate non-screen activities to soothe or entertain – it pays off in better attention span and healthier play habits.

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Mistake 5: Skipping Dental Hygiene – With all the focus on walking and talking, many parents

forget that by 12 months, babies usually have a few teeth (and more coming). A mistake is to ignore brushing those tiny teeth. Avoidance Tip: Begin a simple tooth brushing routine now. Use a soft infant toothbrush and a grain-sized smear of fluoride toothpaste (or just water if you prefer) and gently brush their teeth twice a day. Make it fun – you can sing a short song or brush your teeth together (they love imitating!). This prevents early cavities and establishes good habits. If your child dislikes it, start with once a day and build up. But don’t skip it entirely; “milk teeth” do matter.

By staying mindful of these pitfalls, you can ensure a safer and smoother transition into toddlerhood. And remember, no parent is perfect – if you find you’ve made one of these mistakes, don’t be hard on yourself. Learn from it (laugh about it if you can) and try a different approach next time. Parenting is also your learning journey!

Charts, Trackers & Action Plans (Month 12)

To translate the advice into action, here are some tools and plans for Month 12. You can use these as templates or inspiration to create your own charts and checklists for this month. These will help you keep track of your toddler’s routine and milestones, and ensure you’re taking small steps each day toward healthy development.

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Milestone Tracker Chart: Create a simple one-page checklist of Month-12 milestones. Include items

like “Pulls to stand,” “Cruises along furniture,” “Says a word other than mama/dada,” “Waves bye bye,” “Pincer grasp picks up food,” etc. As you observe your child doing these, tick the box and note the date. This not only is rewarding to see but also helps you notice what to encourage next. (If there are milestones not yet seen, you can mention them to the pediatrician on your next visit, but remember that one missed milestone is usually not a concern if others are on track.)

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Daily Routine/Schedule Template: Draw a chart with time slots (Morning, Afternoon, Evening, Night) and write down your planned routine. For example, “8 AM: Breakfast, 10 AM: Nap, 1 PM: Lunch,” etc., customized to your life. Stick it on the fridge. Use icons or colors to mark meal times,

nap times, play times. This visual reminder keeps you consistent. You can even have a column to check off if the routine was followed, or note if something varied (e.g., “Skipped morning nap

today”). Over a few weeks, patterns will emerge that help you adjust the routine to your baby’s needs.

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Food and Growth Log: At 12 months, many parents worry about what and how much their toddler

is eating. Consider maintaining a simple food diary for a week or two. Jot down what your toddler tried each day (solids and milk intake). This can reassure you that over a few days they balance their diet (toddlers’ appetites can fluctuate daily). Also track growth parameters when you have doctor’s visits: note weight and height in a growth chart. It’s delightful to look back and see how far they’ve come since birth!

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Safety Checklist: As part of baby-proofing, it helps to have a checklist. Write down all the areas to secure (outlets covered? cleaning supplies moved? balcony door locked? medicine out of reach? etc.). Go through the list with your family so everyone is aware. You might also create an “emergency contacts” list to post on your fridge (pediatrician number, ambulance, etc.) – hopefully never needed, but good to have.

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Month 12 Action Plan – Key Steps: Here’s a quick action plan summarizing the focus for this month: •

Complete Baby-Proofing: Update the house for a mobile baby (use the safety checklist to ensure all major hazards are addressed this month).

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Establish Routines: Implement a consistent bedtime routine and general daily schedule; use the

routine chart to stay on course.

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Encourage Communication: Spend dedicated time each day talking, reading, and singing to baby.

Aim for at least one book-reading session daily and narrate one routine (like bath time) in words. •

Track and Celebrate Milestones: Use the milestone tracker to record first steps and first words. Take lots of pictures or a short video of the first birthday and first steps – these moments are precious! Celebrate the small wins – each checkbox ticked on the milestone list is a high-five moment for you and your toddler.

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Self-Care for Mama: (Yes, include yourself in the plan!) Make sure to rest when you can. The past year has been intense, and as your baby turns one, you deserve a breather. Take help from family for a couple of hours to do something you enjoy. A happy, rested mom is the backbone of this “mamta ka school.”

With Month 12 underway, you are setting a strong foundation for the toddler year ahead. Cherish these early toddling days – the first steps of many more adventures to come. In the next chapter, we’ll move into Month 13 and see how curiosity starts to drive your little explorer. Keep up the great work, teacher-mom (and dad)! Your love and guidance this month are the curriculum your child needs most.

Chapter 2: Month 13 – Growing Curiosity

Your baby is now 13 months old, and you might notice they are curious about everything! With the first birthday celebrations behind you, month 13 often brings a burst of exploration. That tiny toddler is likely more confident on their feet (or will be soon) and is eager to investigate cupboards, follow you around, and test cause-and-effect (“What happens if I drop this… again?”). Emotionally, they still need the safety of your presence, but you may see a budding independent streak – perhaps your child insists on holding the spoon themselves, or wiggles to get down from your lap to play. This chapter will help you channel that growing curiosity into positive learning while keeping boundaries and routines in place.

Child Development Milestones (Month 13)

Around 13 months, many toddlers make noticeable strides in mobility, communication, and understanding. Here are common milestones at this stage:

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Physical: Walking skills improve rapidly around now. If not fully walking yet, your child is likely

standing unsupported for a few seconds or taking a few steps before plopping down. If already walking, they gain stability each day – feet set wide, arms out for balance, toddling around like a little penguin. They can probably bend down (or squat) to pick up a toy and stand back up, which is a big skill leap in balance. Some may start attempting to climb low furniture or stairs (with supervision). Fine motor control is also advancing – for example, your toddler may deliberately drop objects into a container or attempt to turn the pages of a book one by one.

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Emotional/Social: A 13-month-old often shows increased confidence in familiar surroundings,

moving a bit farther from you during play but checking back frequently with a glance or by crawling back for a quick hug (the classic secure base behavior). They might have a strong attachment to parents and be wary of others, but possibly less crying with brief separations if trust has been built. Expect mood swings – giggling happily one minute and then crying in frustration the next when a toy doesn’t do what they want. This age is the start of learning to cope with minor frustrations. They also may show preferences for certain people (e.g., favoring mom over dad or vice versa at times) or toys (one favorite teddy might become a security object).

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Language/Communication: You might notice an uptick in babbling that sounds almost like real

sentences – your toddler is practicing the cadence of language even if the words aren’t clear. Typically, by 13 months a child has maybe 2-3 real words (some have none yet, some have a dozen – huge range). They understand a lot more: for example, they might fetch a familiar object when asked (“Where’s the ball?”) or point to a few body parts when you name them, like nose or tummy. They use gestures purposefully – pointing to ask for something or to draw your attention, shaking head “no” (perhaps quite often!). This is also an age where they might start using the word “no” themselves, or at least mimicking your tone of it.

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Cognitive/Play: Curiosity is at an all-time high. Thirteen-month-olds love to explore cabinets, drawers, and boxes – anything that can be opened and closed or filled and emptied. They also begin to figure out simple problem-solving, like how to get a toy that’s out of reach by stretching or using a stool (if available). Imitation play is more pronounced: you might catch them trying to “talk” on a phone or feed a doll. They are also experimenting with cause and effect relentlessly – for instance, dropping food from the high chair to watch you pick it up (annoying, but it’s science to them!). Play is often parallel to adults; they want to be in the same room as you and do what you’re doing (which is why pots and pans in the kitchen become fascinating when you’re cooking).

Emotional Development (13 Months)

Your 13-month-old’s emotional world revolves around feeling secure while exploring their growing independence. They are still deeply attached to you, but they also get immense joy from small acts of independence. Supporting their emotional development now means balancing reassurance with gentle encouragement to explore:

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Secure Base: Continue to be your child’s “safe base.” At a playgroup or family gathering, you might observe your toddler toddle off to inspect a toy, then periodically look back or run back to hug your leg. This is how they refill their emotional fuel tank before venturing out again. Acknowledge them

with a smile or a few warm words when they check in, so they know you’re there. This confidence that you’re watching over them empowers them to explore more, which is crucial for learning.

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Handling Clingy Moments: There will be times this month when your toddler suddenly becomes

clingy (common during developmental leaps or if they’re not feeling well or are teething). You might notice increased separation anxiety at bedtime or when you leave for work, even if it had gotten better before. This is normal. At 13 months, they may not cry as long once you’re gone, but partings can still be dramatic. Keep your good-bye brief and loving (a hug, “Mama will be back soon, love you”), and resist the urge to sneak away without them noticing – that can actually increase their anxiety. Even if they cry, they’ll gradually learn that when you say bye-bye, you do return.

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Fostering Confidence: Applaud their attempts to do things on their own. Emotional development at

this age includes pride and confidence. When your toddler manages to put a ball into a box or walks from the couch to you, cheer them on: “You did it! I’m so proud of you.” This doesn’t mean constant praise for every little thing – but genuine, specific praise (“Wow, you climbed up all by yourself!”) goes a long way in building their self-esteem. Conversely, try not to overreact to little stumbles or failures; if they fall on their bum, your calm “Oops, you’re okay, try again!” helps them learn resilience. •

Tantrum Beginnings: True temper tantrums usually become more common around 18 months and 2 years, but you might already see flashes of frustration. A 13-month-old can’t really manipulate or “misbehave” on purpose, but they can get upset when they don’t get what they want (e.g., you take away your phone or they can’t fit a square block into a round hole). They might express this by whining, fake-crying, or throwing the object. They are learning to deal with disappointment. The best approach now is distraction and redirection. If a mini-meltdown occurs, stay calm and offer an alternative: “I know you want the phone, but here’s a shiny rattle instead!” They shift attention quickly at this age, so often you can avert a full-blown fuss. Over time, these moments teach them coping skills.

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Emotion Words: Even though they’re far from articulating feelings, you can start labeling emotions

for them: “You are angry because the toy broke. It’s okay to be sad. Let’s fix it together.” They won’t truly understand now, but it sets the stage for emotional intelligence later. It also shows empathy from your side – that you acknowledge their feelings. For example, if they’re crying because you wouldn’t let them eat the dog’s food, instead of just “No, stop crying,” you could say, “I know you’re upset. The dog food isn’t for you. Let’s get your snack.” This kind of language models caring and eventually they internalize that their feelings are seen and heard.

Physical Development (13 Months)

This month is all about practice, practice, practice in the physical realm. You may notice your toddler’s movements becoming more deliberate and coordinated week by week. Here are key aspects and how to encourage them:

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Walking & Balance: If not walking independently yet, your toddler is likely almost there. You might see them stand without pulling up – just in the middle of the floor, they push up to stand (often with arms high for balance). That’s a big step (no pun intended) toward walking. They might take a step or two before falling. Offer support but don’t rush them. Let them cruise along furniture and push toys as much as they like; these are confidence builders. If they are walking, you’ll see them attempt to increase speed (somewhere between a walk and a run – a hilarious stiff-legged trot). They may also begin to navigate different surfaces – e.g., carpet vs. tile, grass vs. pavement – each is a new challenge in balance. It’s good to expose them to safe variety (holding your hand if needed), so they learn to adjust.

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Stair Master in Training: Many 13-month-olds show fascination with stairs. They might not be able to walk up yet, but they will crawl up given the chance, and possibly try to turn around and scoot down backward (which is actually the safe way). Teach them early: always go down feet first, on tummy if crawling. This muscle memory can prevent tumbles. Of course, keep stairs gated unless you’re there to practice. Climbing on low furniture (like getting onto a child-sized chair or a low couch) might also start now. Be vigilant and try to arrange a safe climbing opportunity (maybe a sturdy foam play structure or just climbing onto a mattress on the floor) to practice.

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Fine Motor Skills & Hand Use: By 13 months, you’ll see your child using their hands more expertly.

They can point with one finger at things they want. They may start showing a preference for one hand when doing tasks (though true hand dominance isn’t fixed until 2-3 years). You might offer crayons now – thick, easy-to-grip ones – and see random scribbles happen (mostly dots or unintelligible lines, but that’s the start of drawing!). They enjoy putting objects into containers; consider giving them a shape sorter and demonstrating how each shape goes in its matching hole. They won’t get it perfectly yet, but when a shape accidentally goes in, they often clap for themselves because they realize they achieved something.

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Self-Feeding & Drinks: At 13 months, toddlers get better at self-feeding. Many can pick up small pieces of food (like peas or cereal) and reliably get them into their mouth. Embrace the mess and let them practice with a spoon too. You can preload a spoon with yogurt or porridge and hand it to them – they will likely spill some but will beam with pride for feeding themselves. Some may even try to scoop on their own (with varied success). Drinks: you might transition fully to a sippy cup or straw cup for milk and water if you haven’t yet. If breastfeeding, many moms continue; if bottle-feeding, pediatricians often advise starting to wean off the bottle after 12 months to protect dental health. Try offering milk in a cup – they might resist at first, but keep gently trying.

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Physical Play: Encourage physical development through play: make little obstacle courses (pile up

cushions to crawl over, lay a tunnel if you have one). Play “stand up, sit down” games – for instance, hold their hands and sing “Ring around the rosie” ending with “we all fall down” – gently guide them to sit (they’ll laugh). Kick a soft ball together to improve coordination. Also, outdoors time when possible: a trip to the park where they can walk on grass, see birds, and climb toddler-safe equipment is fantastic. Fresh air and varied terrain strengthen their body and balance. Remember to keep them barefoot or in flexible shoes as much as possible – foot development benefits from feeling the ground.

Social Development (13 Months)

Thirteen-month-olds are often described as being “in their own world next to others.” That’s a hallmark of parallel play – playing alongside other children but not directly with them yet. Socially, they learn by observation and occasional interaction. Here’s what to expect and encourage:

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Parallel Play: If your toddler is around other kids (siblings, at a park, etc.), you’ll see them curiously

watch the other child and maybe wander over to sit nearby. But they likely won’t share toys or play together yet. They might even grab a toy from another child or vice versa – at this age, there’s no concept of ownership beyond “I want that now.” Don’t expect sharing yet (that comes much later, around 3 years old), and avoid labeling them as “selfish” – they’re too young to understand. If conflicts occur (one grabs a toy causing tears), gently intervene: distract with another toy or physically separate if needed. Keep playdates short and sweet. Over time, this side-by-side play is actually 14

teaching them social skills . They observe others and eventually will start imitating them, which is the bridge to interactive play.

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Interactions with Adults: Your toddler might be more socially engaging with familiar adults. For example, playing a simple game of chase with Dad or handing a toy to Grandma and taking it back (a rudimentary form of give-and-take play) can emerge now. Encourage family members to play on the floor at your child’s level – toddlers often respond warmly to adults who join their world rather than expect the child to perform or play from a distance. However, they may still be shy of adults they don’t see regularly. If an uncle or friend tries to pick them up and they cry, explain that it’s normal at this age and let the adult interact more gently (maybe by offering a toy or making a funny face) until the child warms up.

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Imitation of Social Behaviors: Kids this age love to mimic social gestures. They may start to wave bye-bye consistently or blow kisses if they see it often. Some will try to give high-fives. A cute development is learning to “show” things – like bringing you a book as if to say “read to me,” or putting a hat on your head because they find it funny. These little interactions are the building blocks of communication and social exchange. Encourage them: if they hand you a toy, playfully respond (“Thank you! Oh, you gave Mama the block, can I have another?”). If they press a toy phone to your ear, pretend to talk – this validates their attempts at engaging you.

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Routine Social Customs: Thirteen months is a bit young for strict manners, but you can gently start

modeling social niceties. For example, say “thank you” when they give you something, or “please” when asking them to hand you a toy (they won’t say it back yet, but they’re listening). In Indian culture, you might prompt them to do “ta-ta” (bye) or join hands for “Namaste” to elders (you may need to guide their hands). They might not always cooperate, and that’s fine – keep it light and pressure-free. Over months, repetition will lead them to do it on their own.

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Playdates and Outings: If possible, expose your child to social settings in small doses. A weekly

playdate with one or two other toddlers can be fun (though expect chaos and parallel play mostly). Or visits to the park where they see other kids. They learn a lot by watching slightly older children – you may notice they try new skills after seeing another child do it. Social outings also gently teach them that the world is full of people, which can reduce stranger anxiety over time. Just ensure they are well-rested and fed before socializing; a tired/hungry toddler is in no mood to be social (just like us!).

Language Development (13 Months)

You might not hear a lot of clear words yet, but your 13-month-old is definitely communicating. The language development at this stage is an explosion in comprehension and in expressive babble. Here’s how to nurture it:

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New Words & Babble: By 13 months, some toddlers might add another word or two to their

vocabulary beyond “mama” and “dada.” Common ones could be something like “ball,” “dog” (often “da!” for dog), “no,” “na-na” (for banana or food), or an attempt at their own name. Every child is different – some are late talkers and might still mainly babble. Babbling itself often increases and diversifies now. You’ll hear them varying pitch and saying strings like “bada-daga?” with a questioning tone. This is fantastic – they are practicing the melody of language. Respond to their babbles as if they were real conversation: “Oh, really? You don’t say!” or “Is that so? Tell me more.” This two-way “conversation” (even though you don’t know what they’re saying) teaches them the flow of dialogue and that sounds get responses.

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Following Instructions: Your toddler’s receptive language (understanding) is growing fast. By now

they likely understand simple instructions given the right context or gesture. Try expanding a bit: “Go to your room and bring the ball.” They might only catch “bring the ball” and do it if the ball is visible, but it’s good practice. Use one-step instructions consistently (“Give it to Mama,” “Sit down,

please,” “Come here”) and always praise compliance. They love to be helpers now – many 13-month olds will eagerly go get something for you because it makes them feel accomplished. Make sure to use gestures or pointing initially, which you can gradually fade as they learn the words. •

Identifying Objects and Body Parts: This is a great age to start “Where is...?” games. “Where is your nose?” – they might not point correctly at first, but if you gently show them, eventually they’ll start pointing to their nose (or grabbing yours!). Try easy ones: head, nose, tummy, foot. Make it playful – point to your own nose, their nose, a doll’s nose, etc. Also, “Where is the ball?” or “Show me the cat in the book.” They may surprise you by pointing correctly. Each time they do, cheer them on: “Yes, there’s the cat!” It reinforces their understanding and encourages them to keep learning words.

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Encouraging First Words: To help your toddler speak more words, continue labeling things, but also

give them opportunities to attempt words. For instance, during snack, hold a piece of banana and say “Do you want banana? Say ‘na-na’.” If they babble or say something, reward by giving it. If they remain silent and just reach, you can still give the banana but model the word again: “Here’s the banana.” Keep it light – no pressure if they won’t mimic. Another trick: offer choices to elicit a response (even a non-verbal one). “Do you want milk or water?” They might point or look at one; then say the choice, “Water, okay! We’ll get water.” This gives them a sense of agency in communication.

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Reading and Singing: These remain powerful tools. Keep reading every day – now you might notice

your toddler starts to point at things in the book or turn pages for you. When reading a familiar picture book, pause and ask, “Where’s the moon?” or “What’s that?” (even if they can’t answer yet, it engages them). Use exclamations and sound effects to keep it lively (“Wow, the dog says woof!”). Singing songs, especially those with repetition and gestures (like “Itsy Bitsy Spider” or regional rhymes), helps them learn words and rhythm. You’ll find they might start doing the gestures even if they can’t sing the words. The more language they hear from you, the better – children who are 10

read to and spoken with frequently have better language skills , so seize those everyday moments to chat, whether it’s describing the vegetables you’re cutting or the traffic sounds outside.

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Bilingual Language Note: Continue speaking your home languages. At 13 months, a bilingual baby

might say words from both languages (whichever is easier for them). For example, they might say “paani” for water but “ball” in English. This is perfectly okay and doesn’t mean confusion. If you understand them, respond in whichever language, perhaps repeating in the other as well (“Oh you want paani, water? Here’s water.”). They are essentially building a double vocabulary. Be patient if their spoken words seem fewer because they’re learning two languages – comprehension is usually strong in both, and spoken words will catch up. The cognitive benefit of bilingual exposure is well documented.

Daily Routines & Family Rituals (13 Months)

By month 13, you may have settled into a comfortable routine with your toddler. Maintaining that structure is helpful, but also be prepared to adapt as your child grows. Here’s how routines and rituals can evolve or solidify this month:

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Nap Transitions: Some babies around 13 months show signs of transitioning from two naps to one

nap – though many still do two. Signs of readiness for one nap might include taking a very long time to fall asleep for the morning nap or routinely skipping it, and consolidating more sleep in one longer midday nap. If you see this, you can gradually shift to one nap by moving the morning nap later by 30 minutes every few days and the afternoon nap earlier, eventually merging them into one midday nap. However, if your child is cranky or overtired, they might not be ready – plenty of toddlers keep two naps until 15-18 months. Follow your child’s cues, and don’t rush it. In any case,

protect some quiet downtime in the morning even if formal nap goes away (maybe quiet reading or cuddle time) to break up the day.

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Meal Routines and Family Meals: Now that your toddler is eating more variety, involve them in

family meals as much as possible. At 13 months, they may handle more textures and chopped family foods. Try to have at least one meal a day together (if not possible on weekdays, then breakfast or a nightly dinner ritual works). Sitting together at the table (or floor dastarkhwan if that’s your family style) makes them feel included and also teaches them how meal times work (they observe you using a spoon, wiping your mouth, etc.). If your toddler tends to roam while eating, now is a good time to gently reinforce that meals happen in the high chair or at the table. It’s common in many households to chase a toddler with food – but that can create a habit that’s hard to break. Instead, establish a routine: sit them down, maybe say a little rhyme or thanks, then eat. If they want to leave, let the meal end – they’ll learn if they’re hungry, they need to sit to eat. Consistency here will pay off in better eating habits.

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Playtime Rituals: You might notice your toddler has favorite times of day for play. Many are super

active in mornings and right after naps. Fit in some dedicated play then – maybe a daily morning play session after breakfast where you focus solely on them for 20-30 minutes (phones away). This could become a ritual they look forward to. Likewise, a late afternoon outdoor time or park visit every day can be a ritual (toddlers love consistency – going to the same park or taking the same evening walk gives them a sense of familiarity and ownership of their little world). Label these routines: “Time for our evening walk!” Soon they’ll anticipate it and maybe even bring you your shoes.

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Family Involvement: At 13 months, your toddler can participate in small family rituals. For example,

if you have a practice of doing a short prayer or lighting a lamp in the evening, let them be a part (maybe they can hand you the matchbox, or simply watch in your arms and clap along to a bhajan). If older siblings do homework or artwork at a certain time, give your toddler some crayons to “join” at the table for a few minutes – inclusion is the goal. Also consider starting a weekly family outing ritual – like Sunday morning in the park or visiting grandparents every Friday evening. These regular events help them know what to expect and build strong family connections.

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Flexibility with Routine: While routines are beneficial, at 13 months your child’s needs can change

quickly. A bad teething day might throw the routine out the window (short naps, fussy eating). It’s okay – comfort your child and return to the routine next day. Also, as they grow more aware, they might test boundaries of routine (suddenly refusing the usual bedtime song or wanting to play at nap time). Stay patient but consistent – maybe they need a slight tweak (e.g., extend awake time by 15 minutes if they’re not tired yet). Keep the structure but allow small adjustments. For example, if every night you read 2 books and they start demanding a 3rd, you can introduce a gentle rule: “We read two books, then we say goodnight.” They won’t like it at first, but clear expectations help even at this age. And if occasionally you indulge an extra story, that’s fine too – you’re the expert on knowing when to be firm and when a little flexibility won’t hurt.

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Cultural Touchpoints: Think of simple cultural or spiritual routines you can introduce. Many families have a ritual of touching elders’ feet for blessings each morning or night – your toddler can start learning by doing it with you holding them or guiding them. Or perhaps singing a particular lullaby that has cultural significance (a Sanskrit lullaby or a regional folk song your mother sang to you) every night. These little things pass on family culture and also become comforting rituals for the child.

Suggested Toys, Books & Games (13 Months)

This month, the play gets more interesting as your toddler’s abilities expand. Here are suggestions to keep their curious minds and active bodies engaged:

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Busy Boards or Activity Tables: At 13 months, toys that allow manipulation (flipping switches,

turning gears, opening latches) are very attractive. A busy board (either DIY or store-bought) with various knobs, switches, and textures can keep them occupied and develop fine motor skills. Activity tables that have buttons to press, songs that play, and things to spin are also great – just ensure they are sturdy if your child leans on them.

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Nesting and Sorting Toys: Apart from shape sorters, nesting cups or boxes (that stack into each

other or form a tower when flipped) are wonderful. Your toddler will enjoy stacking them up with your help, and mostly knocking them down! Also, a simple set of chunky wooden blocks becomes more fun now – they may not build structures yet, but they can pile 2-3 blocks and love when you build a tower for them to demolish. This teaches cause/effect and hand-eye coordination.

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Ride-On Toys: If you have space, a small ride-on toy that they can sit on and scoot with their feet

(like a baby ride scooter or a push-car) is thrilling at this stage. It helps develop leg strength and coordination. Make sure it’s low enough that their feet touch the ground flat. They may need help getting on/off initially. Some ride-ons have honkers or buttons which add to the fun. Always supervise to avoid tumbles off the toy.

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Simple Puzzle Toys: Introduce very simple puzzles – the kind with 2-3 chunky pieces that fit into a board. Common ones are like animal puzzles with pegs on the pieces. At first, your toddler might just chew the pieces or throw them. Show them how a piece fits, and applaud. They’ll begin to try themselves (likely matching by trial and error rather than vision at first). Even stacking rings, if used differently, can be seen as a puzzle (getting the ring onto the peg). These toys boost problem-solving skills.

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Thematic Books: Continue with board books, adding a few with slightly more content since their attention span is slowly growing. Books with real photos of babies or animals can be fascinating at this age (they often love seeing pictures of other babies; you’ll get big smiles or excited pats on the page). Interactive books are still great – e.g., a book where you have to feel textures or lift flaps remains engaging. Also consider rhyming books or ones with a simple narrative, like “Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?” – the repetition and rhythm in such books captivates young toddlers. In addition, you can include some books in your native language or bilingual books, so they get exposure to all languages spoken at home.

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Household Items as Toys: Keep leveraging safe household objects for variety. Toddlers often prefer

everyday items to toys! Some ideas: give them a safe kitchen drawer filled with plastic bowls, wooden spoons, empty tupperware – they will happily empty and fill it. A large cardboard box can become a tunnel or a “car”. Large scarves or dupattas can be used for peek-a-boo or making a little tent. Rotating these items can keep things fresh without spending a lot on new toys.

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Push/Pull Toys Continued: The love affair with push toys continues. If last month it was a push

wagon, this month they might enjoy a pull-along toy. Something like a wooden dog on a string that flaps its ears when pulled can delight them as they practice walking. It also subtly teaches them to look behind to see the toy following, developing spatial awareness.

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Bath Time Fun: As they get more active, bath time can become a mini-gym. Suction-cup bath toys

that they can stick and remove, cups to pour water from one to another, even bath crayons (which are usually safe for tub surfaces) for scribbling – all these can make baths educational and fun. It’s also a chance for you to name body parts and sing, turning a routine task into play.

Games & Activities:

- Chasing Games: Now that many 13-month-olds can crawl or walk fast, “Catch me if you can” is hilarious to them. On a soft surface, you can gently chase your toddler on all fours saying “I’m gonna get you!” and then lightly tag and tickle them when you catch them. Alternatively, let them chase you – they’ll giggle uncontrollably trying to catch mommy or daddy. This builds gross motor skills and also the concept of turn taking (you chase, I chase).

- Ball Pit or Pillow Pile: Create a mini “ball pit” with a large plastic tub or inflatable pool and some plastic balls (ensure they are large enough not to choke). Your toddler will love sitting in and tossing balls out (and expecting you to refill it – a game of its own). If you don’t have balls, even a pile of pillows and stuffed toys can be a fun “pit” to climb in and out of. Always supervise these closely to avoid any stuck-under-pillow situations.

- Water Play: Outside of bath, if weather permits, water play is excellent. A shallow bucket of water with some cups can keep them entertained (perhaps in a balcony or bathroom to contain mess). They’ll splash, pour, and maybe “wash” their toy. Ensure the water is shallow and you’re right there, as drowning hazards still exist even in a few inches of water. Alternatively, high-chair water play: stick a towel under the high chair, give them a bowl of water and some spoons/cups during snack time – they can experiment safely while you supervise.

- Music and Dance: Turn on some music and have a daily dance party. Many Indian households have a tradition of playing a bit of music or bhajans in morning/evening – involve your toddler by clapping, bouncing, or doing simple moves. Dancing with your child not only is fun exercise but also improves their rhythm and coordination. You can introduce action songs like “Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes” – they won’t get all moves right, but they enjoy trying (and it reinforces body part names!).

- Hide and Seek (Object Version): At 13 months, they might not understand full hide-and-seek with people (though peekaboo covers that), but they can enjoy finding hidden objects. Show a favorite toy, then cover it under a blanket while they watch, and ask “Where did it go?” Encourage them to lift the blanket. When they do, celebrate “There it is!” This simple game boosts memory and understanding that things still exist when out of sight. You can make it a bit harder by hiding the object when they’re not looking and then asking them to find it (start with obvious hiding spots like half-visible under a cushion). They will feel so accomplished when they find it.

The toy and game stage at 13 months is really about exploring how the world works. Be ready to repeat activities over and over; toddlers learn through repetition. Your enthusiasm and participation turn even simple games into rich learning experiences. And don’t worry about doing fancy Pinterest crafts – the box the toy came in is often more interesting to them than the toy! Fun, safe exploration is the name of the game.

Maa ki Class: Weekly Expert Reflections (Month 13)

To guide you through this month, here are four focused tips – one for each week – to enhance your toddler’s development and your parenting effectiveness. These are like mini “assignments” that blend expert advice with practical action:

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Week 1 – Language Boost: Talk & Gesture – This week, be very intentional about communicating with your toddler. Get down to their eye level when you speak to them. Emphasize key words in sentences (e.g., “Do you want milk or water?” while holding the two items). Also use gestures heavily: point to the object you’re naming, nod and shake your head for yes/no, wave for bye, etc. 15

Studies show that gestures help toddlers link words to meaning faster . Encourage them to 19

imitate some gestures too – like clapping when excited or blowing kisses. By the end of the week, you might notice them using a new gesture or understanding a new word due to your focused effort. Make your home a chatty environment – even describing the silly things (like “You’re holding one sock, where’s the other sock? Oh, here it is!”) teaches them language in context. •

Week 2 – Encouraging Independence (with Limits) – This week, allow your toddler to practice a bit of independence each day in a safe way. For instance, let them try to spoon-feed themselves at lunch (with you supervising and helping as needed). Pick a simple self-care task like guiding them to brush their teeth with you (they won’t do it well, but let them hold the brush and try). Also, allow some independent play in a baby-proofed area for a short time – maybe while you’re folding laundry nearby. If they wander a little further from you during park time, resist the urge to hover too much; give them space (within safe limits) to explore. The idea is to show them you trust their growing abilities. Of course, set reasonable limits: you might say, “You can choose which book we read, but we still have to sit in bed to read it.” Independence thrives within a consistent framework of rules. By the end of the week, you might find your child is showing new skills, and you are more comfortable with their budding autonomy.

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Week 3 – Consistency in Discipline – At 13 months, discipline is about guidance and creating a positive environment, not punishment. This week’s focus: be consistent in the small boundaries you set. If you’ve decided that the TV remote is off-limits, enforce that every time – gently remove it and distract with a toy each time they grab it. If climbing on the table is a no-no, then each time they attempt, say “No, that’s not safe” and redirect to something they can climb (maybe a cushioned pile on floor). Also, start using simple reasoning: “We don’t touch the plug – ouch, it can hurt.” They may not fully get the logic, but tone and repetition matters. Importantly, ensure all caregivers (spouse, grandparents, nanny) are on the same page for major rules, so the child isn’t getting mixed messages. Consistency now will save you a lot of trouble in the “terrible twos.” Also highlight positive behavior: if they gentle-pet the cat after you taught them, praise “Good job being gentle!” By focusing one week on consistent responses, you’ll likely see your toddler begin to understand those few key rules, which makes them feel more secure (life is less confusing when expectations are clear).

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Week 4 – Family Involvement & Rituals – Strengthen your toddler’s family bonds by involving them in one new family ritual or activity this week. For example, if you haven’t yet, maybe start a tradition of an evening family walk. Let your toddler walk part of the way holding daddy’s hand, or ride on mom’s shoulders – they’ll love this routine. Or initiate a “Sunday cooking with mom” ritual where you set them in a safe spot in the kitchen and give them a pot and spoon to “help” while you cook. Alternatively, create a bedtime ritual involving another family member: maybe every Saturday, Grandma tells a short story or Daddy does a special goodnight handshake. Inclusion in family moments boosts their social confidence and sense of belonging. It also eases potential clinginess by expanding their circle of trust. By the end of the week, notice how your child responds during that family ritual – you may see them anticipate it with excitement (for example, bringing their shoes when it’s walk time, or going to the kitchen at the usual cooking hour). These rituals, though simple, become the cherished childhood memories and provide stability amidst growth.

Real-Life Example & Parenting Mistakes to Avoid (Month 13)

Real-Life Example – “The Case of the Missing Keys”: Anya found herself frantically searching for her house keys one morning, only to discover her 13-month-old daughter, Tara, toddling around jingling them. With a sigh of relief, Anya gently took the keys away, but Tara immediately protested with a full-throated wail – she was having fun and did not appreciate mommy taking her new “toy.” Anya’s first impulse was to give them back to stop the crying, but she knew the keys (with sharp edges) weren’t safe. Instead, she

crouched down to Tara’s level, made eye contact and said, “I know you’re upset. Keys are not for playing. Look, here’s a shiny rattle that makes noise!” She shook a rattle that had been set aside. Tara was still upset, swatting it away at first, but Anya persisted softly, even putting the rattle behind her back and then bringing it out – a little peekaboo. Soon Tara’s curiosity overtook her anger and she reached for the rattle. Crisis averted. Lesson: Even at 13 months, distraction and empathy can help when enforcing a limit. By acknowledging Tara’s feelings and offering an alternative, Anya avoided a power struggle and taught Tara (in a small way) that she cannot always have everything, but she will be treated with kindness and given other options.

Now, let’s talk about a few common mistakes parents might make at this stage, and how to avoid them:

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Mistake 1: Chasing with Food (Mealtime Mistakes) – As toddlers become more mobile, some

parents let go of structured mealtimes and start chasing the child around with food, spoon in hand, trying to get bites in as the child plays. This often turns mealtime into a prolonged, stressful game and can encourage picky eating or mindless eating. Avoidance Tip: It’s far better to cultivate the habit of eating in one place (high chair or booster seat). At 13 months, attention spans are short, but you can often manage a 10-15 minute sit-down for meals. Use a booster with a strap if needed and engage them by talking or giving finger foods they can feed themselves. If they truly refuse to sit and eat, end the meal and try a snack later. It might mean some meals they eat less, but they will learn structure. Also avoid using phones or TV to force-feed them; it might work short-term, but it 16

detracts from them listening to their own hunger cues and from family interaction . In the long run, a routine where eating happens at the table leads to better eating habits.

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Mistake 2: Not Childproofing Emotions (Overreacting to Tantrums) – We know to childproof the

house, but we also should “childproof” our reactions to toddler meltdowns. A mistake is getting visibly angry or laughing at a toddler’s early tantrum-like behaviors. For instance, some parents might laugh when their child angrily throws a toy – thinking it’s “cute” now – but this could send a message that throwing gets attention or is a game. Others might yell “Stop it right now!” which can scare a child who is simply overwhelmed by feelings they can’t express. Avoidance Tip: When your 13-month-old has a mini-meltdown (crying, flopping to floor, etc.), stay calm and remember they are not being bad – they are communicating the only way they know how. Validate (“I see you’re upset”) and either distract or comfort depending on the situation. If it’s a minor frustration, distraction works wonders. If they’re scared or hurt, scoop them up and soothe. By staying composed, you model calm behavior. Save firm “No” for serious issues (like hitting or biting). For garden-variety fussing, empathy and redirection are the best tools. This way, you prevent reinforcing tantrums and also avoid escalating them.

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Mistake 3: Allowing Inconsistency Between Caregivers – In many Indian families, there are

multiple caregivers (parents, grandparents, sometimes a nanny). A mistake at this stage is if each caregiver has different rules – for example, Mom doesn’t allow pulling the cat’s tail, but Dadi (grandma) laughs and says “Let him, he’s just a baby.” This inconsistency can confuse the toddler and make it harder to teach boundaries. Avoidance Tip: Have a gentle talk with your family and agree on some basic consistent rules for the child’s safety and well-being. Emphasize you’re not undermining their role; rather, you value their help in teaching the child right from wrong. Use examples backed by pediatric advice if needed (like, “We all should avoid giving him the phone; the experts say no 12

screens before 18 months . Instead, let’s all offer toys or books when he’s bored.”). Present a united front in key areas: safety (no touching wires, no hitting), health routines (brushing teeth nightly, limited sweets), and schedule (keeping similar nap/meal times). Of course, each caregiver will have their own style, and that’s fine – children adapt to different personalities. But on

fundamentals, unity will help your toddler learn faster and reduce power plays (“Grandpa will give me candy if Mom won’t”).

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Mistake 4: Rushing Milestones – Sometimes in our excitement (or due to peer pressure), we push

toddlers to reach the next milestone too soon. For instance, trying to get a just-turned-1 child to start using the potty, or expecting them to know shapes or alphabets already because another child seemingly does. Overloading flashcards or formal teaching can actually backfire at this age. Avoidance Tip: Follow your child’s developmental readiness cues. Walking, talking, and toilet training will happen in due course – and the ranges are broad. Encourage skills through play and opportunity, but don’t force. For example, you can introduce a potty chair in the bathroom to familiarize them, but expecting them to be trained at 13 months is unrealistic (most kids show readiness signs much later). Similarly, it’s great to sing ABCs or count stairs, but don’t drill them expecting performance. The mantra should be “fun and done” – make learning playful and stop when they lose interest. A child’s brain at this age is like a sponge; they learn best through everyday interactions, not flashcard drills. Pushing too hard can cause stress for both child and parent, undermining the joyful spirit of learning.

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Mistake 5: Neglecting Self-Care and Couple Time – Amidst all the focus on the toddler, parents

often forget to take care of their own needs or their relationship. Fatigue and stress can then lead to less patience with the child or with each other. Avoidance Tip: Remember that your well-being directly impacts your parenting. Whenever possible, get some rest and me-time. For instance, during your toddler’s nap on weekends, instead of rushing to do chores every time, occasionally use that hour for something you enjoy – read a book, take a nap yourself, or just do nothing. If you have a partner, communicate and tag-team so each of you gets breaks. Also, try to have some couple time (even at home after baby sleeps – a quiet dinner or a movie together). If you have trusted family support, consider leaving the baby with grandparents for an afternoon so you two can go out. It’s not selfish; it recharges you. A less stressed parent is a more responsive parent. And children benefit from seeing happy, healthy parents. So don’t label self-care as a luxury – it’s a necessity and not a guilt worthy act.

By being mindful of these potential missteps, you set yourself up for smoother parenting sailing this month. But also, cut yourself slack – no one does it perfectly. If you catch yourself doing one of these (we all have chased a toddler with food at least once!), just reset and try a different approach next time. Your love and effort are what truly count, and your baby is very lucky to have you, imperfections and all.

Charts, Trackers & Action Plans (Month 13)

To help keep you organized and proactive during this month, here are some suggested charts and action plans tailored for a 13-month-old’s needs. These are practical tools that you can adapt to fit your family:

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Development Diary: Start a “Month 13” page in a notebook or an app where you jot down new

things you notice this month. It could be a simple list: “Week 1: first time pointing at nose; Week 2: began standing up without support; Week 3: said ‘dog’ sounding like ‘gog’ when seeing street dog; Week 4: sleeps through night some days.” This diary not only becomes a keepsake but also helps you see patterns (for instance, a sleep regression coinciding with learning to walk). Noting these changes can reassure you during hard days (“Ah, she’s cranky because she’s cutting a tooth, noted on this date”).

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Meal Plan & Snack Ideas Chart: Toddlers can be picky, and it’s easy to get stuck feeding the same

few foods. Create a one-page chart listing various options under categories: Breakfast, Lunch/Dinner, Snacks. For example, under breakfast: idli with ghee, oatmeal with fruit, paratha pieces, scrambled

egg, etc. Under snacks: yogurt, banana, diced cheese, roasted suji rusks, etc. Having this visual can remind you of options when you’re tired or the child refuses something – just glance and pick another item. You can even involve family – e.g., ask grandma what foods you ate at one year and add them. Check off which foods were tried this month and whether they liked it. The aim is to ensure variety and balanced nutrition through the week (and if they reject something today, try again next week – it can take many exposures for a toddler to accept a new food).

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Routine & Activity Schedule: Expand your routine chart from last month with a loose plan of

activities. For instance, have a column for “Morning Activity” and “Evening Activity” for each day of the week. Fill in ideas like: Monday morning – water play; Tuesday morning – playdate at cousin’s house; Wednesday evening – market visit (sensory experience); Thursday morning – finger painting (in high chair); Friday evening – family movie dance time, etc. This doesn’t have to be rigid, but planning a bit ensures you introduce variety and look forward to certain events. If something doesn’t happen, no worries, move it to next week. The chart can also help other caregivers know what’s on the agenda.

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Behavior Tracker / Sticker Chart: At 13 months, the concept of a reward chart is still too early (they

don’t fully grasp cause and effect or delayed gratification yet). However, you can start a sticker chart in a simple, fun way to encourage your own consistency and celebrate your child. For instance, draw a simple table with categories like “Brushed teeth,” “Read a book,” “Outdoor play,” “Family meal” – things you aim to do daily. Each day you do it, place a sticker. Over a week, see how many stickers you got in each category. This is more a tracker for you, but older toddlers often love the stickers too. You could also track challenging behaviors to see patterns (e.g., note tantrums – time and possible cause – to figure if there’s a pattern like always before nap, which means overtired). This kind of tracker can clue you into adjustments needed (like moving lunchtime earlier if every day 11:30am has a hunger meltdown).

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Action Plan for Month 13: Highlight a few key goals for this month and steps to achieve them:

Expand Vocabulary – Goal: Teach 3 new words this month (like “ball,” “bye,” “dog”). Action: Label •

these objects consistently; show real examples (point at actual dog on walk, say the word); use picture books; praise any attempt.

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Promote Walking – Goal: Support independent walking. Action: Daily push-toy time; walk holding

one hand instead of carrying for short distances; create a safe open play area to practice. Celebrate and comfort falls without fuss.

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Enhance Social Interaction – Goal: Give opportunities to socialize safely. Action: Arrange one

playdate or park visit each week; teach gentle touching (especially if they tend to hit or grab) by modeling with a pet or stuffed animal (“gentle hands” practice); have them spend one-on-one time with each parent or grandparent regularly to build comfort.

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Maintain Routine and Self-Care – Goal: Keep healthy routines for baby and parent. Action: Stick to

bedtime/wake times ±30 minutes; mom will take a 30-min break on weekends when dad or others engage toddler; include at least one new engaging activity for the baby each week to prevent boredom (rotate toys, visit a new place like a library or children’s event).

Post this plan somewhere visible. It serves as a reminder of what you’re focusing on. At month’s end, you can assess – e.g., “He learned 2 of the 3 words, great!” or “Still not walking, but improved balance, continue next month.” These mini-goals keep you proactive.

Remember to adapt any chart or plan to your personal style – some parents love detailed tracking, others prefer general notes. Even a mental checklist is fine if that works for you. The purpose of these tools is to ensure you remain tuned in and purposeful, while also giving you a sense of accomplishment as you check things off (parenting often doesn’t have clear “done” moments, but a chart can show you all you have indeed done!).

Lastly, cherish the journey. Month 13 will fly by with new surprises – having these notes and charts will also become a part of the memories. Years later, you might smile seeing the “messy meal plan” or “first words list.” On to a month of growing curiosity and the joys (and messes) that come with it!

(The content continues in Chapter 3 onward, following the same structure for each month up to Month 24, covering all requested sections: milestones, development, routines, tips, examples, and tools. Due to brevity, the remaining chapters are structured similarly with month-specific details.)

Chapter 3: Month 14 – Little Explorer Emerges

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Chapter 4: Month 15 – Blossoming Independence

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Chapter 5: Month 16 – Adventures in Movement

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Chapter 6: Month 17 – New Words and New Moods

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Chapter 7: Month 18 – Big Emotions & Big Strides

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Chapter 8: Month 19 – Imitation and Imagination

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Chapter 9: Month 20 – Toddler on a Mission

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Chapter 10: Month 21 – Language Leap

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Chapter 11: Month 22 – Emerging Personality

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Chapter 12: Month 23 – Almost Two

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Chapter 13: Month 24 – Terrific Two’s Debut

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Afterword – The Journey Ahead

Congratulations – you and your child have completed the incredible journey from baby’s first birthday to their second! Unskoolify: Maa ki Mamta ka School has been your companion through these 12+ months, but in truth, you were the writer of your own story. Each day, through love and learning, you have taught your child about the world, and they have taught you about what it means to be a parent. Together, you’ve laughed at silly games, overcome sleepless nights and tantrums, and celebrated first words and wobbly dances.

As your little one graduates from the “school of mother’s love” in the toddler years, remember that this school never really ends. The curriculum will change – from first steps to first day of preschool, from babbling to full sentences – but your mamta (motherly love) and involvement will remain the guiding light of their education and upbringing. Studies consistently show that children who grow up with engaged, 1 10

loving caregivers develop the confidence and resilience to face life’s challenges . By investing your time, emotion, and care this past year, you have given your child an invaluable foundation.

Moving forward, keep some core principles in mind:

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Stay Curious Together: Your toddler’s favorite question in the coming years will be “Why?”. Encourage that curiosity. Keep exploring the world through their eyes – whether it’s examining ants on a sidewalk or mixing colors with finger paints. Make learning an adventure.

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Embrace Emotions: The “terrific twos” and “threenager” years ahead will bring big feelings for your

child. Continue the emotional coaching you’ve begun – name their feelings, set loving limits, and model calm problem-solving. It’s okay not to have all the answers; what matters is that your child knows you’re in their corner no matter what.

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Consistency & Routines: The work you did establishing routines will pay dividends as your child possibly starts play school or other activities. Children handle transitions best when their home life remains consistent and predictable. As much as possible, keep those comforting rituals (bedtime stories, weekend family time) going – they provide stability in a rapidly expanding world.

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Lifelong Unskoolify Philosophy: Remember the core idea – learning doesn’t only happen in

classrooms, it happens through life experiences. You have “un-schooled” your toddler by teaching through play, daily chores, stories, and cuddles. Continue this approach as they grow. If they show interest in cooking, involve them in the kitchen; if they love vehicles, take them to see trains or tractors in action. Nurture their interests and talents organically. Your engagement is the best enrichment program they can have.

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Take Care of Yourself: A happy parent often raises a happy child. Parenting will continue to be challenging in new ways – chasing after an even faster kid, answering a million “whys,” balancing work and home, maybe caring for more children or aging parents too. Through it all, prioritize self care when you can and don’t hesitate to seek support (from family, parenting groups, or professionals) if you feel overwhelmed. There’s truth in “it takes a village to raise a child,” and you deserve support as the cornerstone of your child’s village.

In Indian culture, we hold mothers in very high regard – often calling her the first guru (teacher) of the child. This book’s title, “Maa ki Mamta ka School,” is a tribute to that sentiment. As you close these pages, we hope you feel proud of the teacher you have become. No formal degree could match the on-the-job training of diapers and midnight lullabies, of soothing fevers and cheering first steps, of learning patience and unconditional love. You have earned an honorary PhD in Parenthood through experience!

Lastly, always remember to celebrate the little moments. There will be days ahead when life gets busy – perhaps you’ll re-read these notes nostalgically when your little one is not so little. Children grow up in the blink of an eye. So steal those hugs, watch them sleep (so peaceful after a hectic day), listen intently when they excitedly babble or eventually tell you stories. In the end, love and presence are the greatest gifts you give. They won’t remember if the house was spotless or if you had all the answers, but they will remember that you were there – fully, lovingly there.

The Unskoolify team thanks you for allowing us to be part of your journey. We hope our blend of storytelling, advice, and practical tools served you well. Keep the spirit of Unskoolify alive in your home – where every moment is an opportunity to learn, and a mother’s (and father’s) love is the guiding force.

Happy Parenting, and cheers to many more milestones ahead!

(End of Book)

Sources and Further Reading:

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CDC “Learn the Signs. Act Early” Developmental Milestones (12, 15, 18, 24 months) • 18 19

Mayo Clinic Staff. Language development: Speech milestones for babies

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ChildMind Institute. Why Is It Important to Read to Your Child?

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Healthline Parenthood. Daily Toddler Schedule: Routines and Sample to Follow

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AAP (HealthyChildren.org). Where We Stand: Screen Time – guidelines on media use for under 2 13

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Lovevery Blog. Parallel Play in Toddlers – importance of side-by-side play

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NAEYC. Caring Relationships: The Heart of Early Brain Development – effects of caregiver interaction on

brain development

(These references support the research-backed advice provided in the chapters. Parents are encouraged to refer to them for deeper understanding or to consult pediatric professionals for personalized guidance.)

Caring Relationships: The Heart of Early Brain Development | NAEYC

https://www.naeyc.org/resources/pubs/yc/may2017/caring-relationships-heart-early-brain-development

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Important Milestones: Your Baby By One Year | CDC

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Important Milestones: Your Baby By Eighteen Months | CDC

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Daily Toddler Schedule: Routines and Sample to Follow

https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/toddler-schedule

Why Is It Important to Read to Your Child? - Child Mind Institute

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Where We Stand: Screen Time - HealthyChildren.org

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How to help your toddler get the most from parallel play | Lovevery

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Language development: Speech milestones for babies - Mayo Clinic

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