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Unskoolify: Maa Ki Mamta Ka School A Comprehensive Parenting Guide for Ages 2–3 (24–36 Months)

Empowering Parents through Skill-Based Learning, Activity-Based Development, and Value-Based Upbringing

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Unskoolify: Maa Ki Mamta Ka School – Parenting Guide (24–36 Months)

Compiled for Modern Indian Parents

Empowering parents to be the first and best teachers through love, learning, and play. Table of Contents

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Preface

Chapter 1: 24 Months – The Journey Begins

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Chapter 2: 25 Months

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Chapter 3: 26 Months

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Chapter 4: 27 Months

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Chapter 5: 28 Months

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Chapter 6: 29 Months

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Chapter 7: 30 Months

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Chapter 8: 31 Months

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Chapter 9: 32 Months

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Chapter 10: 33 Months

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Chapter 11: 34 Months

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Chapter 12: 35 Months

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Chapter 13: 36 Months – Turning Three

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Conclusion

Preface

A mother and her toddler share a joyful moment creating art together, reflecting the heart of “Maa Ki Mamta Ka School” – everyday moments are learning moments.

Becoming a parent is often described as enrolling in the toughest yet most rewarding school – and in Maa Ki Mamta Ka School, a mother’s love is the classroom. This parenting guide is born from that idea. It embraces the warm, nurturing ethos of Indian parenting, while backing it up with global scientific research and modern best practices. By the time a child turns 2 years old (24 months), parents have already witnessed

how rapidly their little one grows and learns. From the first words to the first tantrums, every moment has been a lesson for both child and parent. Now, as your child embarks on the journey from 2 to 3 years old (24–36 months), this book will be your companion – providing structured guidance, emotional support, and practical tips for each step of that journey.

In these pages, you’ll find a month-by-month roadmap of toddler development and parenting strategies. Each chapter focuses on one month in your child’s life, detailing what new skills or milestones you might observe, and how you can best support them. We cover all critical aspects: developmental milestones, establishing a healthy daily routine, engaging activities and toys for skill-building, gentle emotional care and positive parenting phrases, nurturing stories and moral development, common parental mistakes to avoid, a special “Maa Ki Class” section with reflections and science-backed advice for the parent, and even handy charts or trackers to monitor or guide your child’s progress. The structure is designed to be clear and comforting – much like a lesson plan in school, but here Maa (Mom) is the teacher and Mamta (love) is the method of teaching.

We understand that every child is unique, and so is every family. The information here is comprehensive yet flexible – think of it as a friendly guide rather than strict rules. Each chapter blends evidence-based guidelines with the cultural wisdom passed down through generations in Indian homes. You’ll see global parenting research cited throughout, from experts like pediatricians at the CDC and WHO, child psychologists, and early education specialists, affirming why certain approaches are recommended. For example, research confirms that a strong routine at home helps children feel secure and even improves 1

their learning and social skills later . Science also shows that by age 3, a child’s brain reaches about 80% 2

of its adult size, illustrating how critical these early years are . We pair such insights with the gentle, intuitive knowledge that Indian parents naturally use – like telling stories at bedtime or the comfort of a mother’s hug – to create a supportive environment for both child and parent.

The tone of this book is intentionally warm and encouraging. Parenting a toddler can be as challenging as it is delightful – for every innocent laugh or new word, there might be a tantrum or a sleepless night. Through the storytelling elements and the “Maa Ki Class” sections, we hope you feel the presence of a wise, empathetic friend who understands your worries and applauds your efforts. You’ll find anecdotes and examples that reflect everyday life in India, from playful bath time rituals to joint family dynamics, making the advice relatable and realistic. And while the perspective often speaks to the mother (“Maa”), the guidance is equally relevant for fathers, grandparents, or any caregiver invested in the child’s upbringing.

By following along month by month, you’ll not only help your child reach their developmental milestones, but also imbue them with values and skills that last a lifetime. Unskoolify’s mission is to empower parents through skill-based learning, activity-based development, and value-based upbringing, and this guide is a concrete step in that direction. We believe that play is learning for toddlers – whether it’s stacking blocks or listening to a story, children at this age learn best through fun and interaction, not through pressure. In fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics encourages parents and doctors to “prescribe play,” because playing with your toddler builds essential life skills and reduces stress for both child and parent

. You’ll see many playful activities suggested in these chapters for exactly this reason.

As you read through the chapters, remember that you are the true expert on your child. Take ideas from here that resonate with you and adapt them to your family’s style. Use the charts and routines as gentle guides, not rigid standards. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn – after all, Maa Ki Mamta Ka School is as much about parents learning and growing as it is about children. By the end of this journey, when your

little one blows out three candles on the birthday cake, you might find that you have graduated too – with new wisdom, confidence, and countless cherished memories from the year gone by.

Let’s begin this beautiful journey of parenting your 2-to-3-year-old. Welcome to Maa Ki Mamta Ka School, where love is the curriculum and every day is a new class! Together, we will celebrate small wins, navigate through the tough days, and never lose sight of the magic and mamta (maternal love) that underpins it all.

Happy Parenting!

Unskoolify – Maa Ki Mamta Ka School (24–36 Months Parenting Guide)

Chapter 1: 24 Months – The Journey Begins

At 24 months old, your baby has officially turned two – welcome to the toddler years! This chapter focuses on what life looks like right at 2 years and how you can set a strong foundation for the year ahead. Two year-olds are bursting with curiosity and energy; they are often called “terrible twos” but we prefer “terrific twos” – because despite the tantrums, this age is truly delightful as toddlers start to express their personality. Let’s explore the monthly developmental milestones, daily rhythms, and parenting strategies for this stage.

1. Monthly Developmental Milestones (Emotional, Cognitive, Physical, Language)

By the 24th month, toddlers are gaining new skills rapidly. Here are typical milestones around 2 years of age:

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Social & Emotional: Your 24-month-old may show signs of empathy – for example, they might look 4

concerned if they see another child crying . They seek your reactions in new situations, gazing at your face to decide if something is safe or not. At this age, toddlers often oscillate between clinging to parents and insisting “Me do it!” as they explore independence. Don’t be surprised if sharing toys

is difficult – parallel play (playing alongside other children without much interaction) is common now. Emotional highs and lows are normal; a minute after a tantrum, your little one may be giggling happily.

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Language & Communication: Around two years, toddlers typically use at least two-word phrases, 5 6

like “more milk” or “Mama come” . They can point to objects or pictures when you name 7

them – if you ask “Where is the cat?”, they might point in a book . Many 24-month-olds have a vocabulary of 50 or more words, though pronunciation might be unclear. They also understand far more than they can speak. Expect a lot of pointing, gesturing, and maybe the start of questions (“What’s that?”). Encourage their speech by reading and talking to them often – each new word is building their brain connections.

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Cognitive (Learning & Thinking): Two-year-olds engage in simple problem-solving and experimentation. They can hold one object while using another, e.g. holding a container and 8

removing its lid . They love to figure out how things work – flipping light switches, pushing 9

buttons, turning doorknobs (time to childproof those!) . You’ll notice pretend play blossoming: 3

your toddler might “cook” with toy utensils or feed a doll. They also start understanding simple two step instructions (“Pick up the ball and give it to Dada”). Their memory is improving – they remember where favorite toys are kept and familiar people even after days apart.

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Physical & Motor: At 24 months, most toddlers walk and run with more confidence (though 10 11

tumbles still happen) . They can kick a ball forward and love to climb (chairs, stairs – 12

anything!). Many can walk up a few stairs with support or by holding the railing . Stacking 4–6 blocks into a tower is a fun challenge they can often master. Fine motor skills are evident in how they use a spoon to eat (with spills) and perhaps start scribbling with crayons. They may also help with 13 14

dressing by pushing arms through sleeves or taking off loose clothing like an open jacket . Potty training may be on the horizon, though some 24-month-olds show readiness now, many others will train later – at this stage it’s fine if they are still in diapers.

(Keep in mind: milestones are averages – it’s normal if your child isn’t doing all these things exactly at 24 months. Look for steady progress and always discuss any concerns with your pediatrician.)

2. Daily Routine (Morning to Bedtime)

Establishing a consistent daily routine for your 2-year-old provides a sense of security and helps them 1

thrive . Here’s an example of a gentle daily schedule from morning to night:

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7:00 AM – Good Morning: Toddler wakes up (often with a big smile or maybe a bit of grogginess). Start with a warm “good morning” hug and some cuddles. Change their diaper (or assist in potty if starting training).

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8:00 AM – Breakfast: A healthy breakfast like porridge, poha, idli, or buttered toast with fruit. Encourage self-feeding with supervision – toddlers love to assert independence by using a spoon or their fingers. Use this time to chat: “Look, you have bananas. Yummy!”

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10:00 AM – Active Play: After breakfast, your toddler might have a burst of energy. This is a great time for active play. Let them run in the house or yard, play hide-and-seek, or dance to rhymes. If possible, go outdoors – a trip to the park or just a walk outside to get fresh air. This physical activity meets their movement needs (experts recommend toddlers get at least 180 minutes of active play a 15

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1:00 PM – Lunch: Serve a balanced lunch (dal, rice/chapati, vegetables, maybe some curd). Involve your child by letting them try to feed themselves while you assist – it builds motor skills and confidence. Keep conversation positive. After lunch, have a calm period to wind down. •

2:00 PM – Nap Time: Most 24-month-olds still need an afternoon nap of about 1–2 hours. Following lunch, dim the lights and follow a brief nap routine (perhaps a short story or lullaby). A consistent nap time keeps your toddler from getting overtired (which can actually lead to more tantrums). •

4:00 PM – Post-Nap Snack & Quiet Play: Upon waking, give a small snack (milk, fruit, or biscuits). Toddlers often need a bit of time to fully wake up – some quiet play like doing a simple puzzle or looking at picture books together can help ease them back into activity.

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5:00 PM – Evening Exploration: Early evening can be another active play period. You might do a fun activity together like finger painting, playing with blocks, or watering plants. It’s also a good time for a short outing – perhaps a stroll around the neighborhood or playing with a ride-on toy in the compound. Interaction with neighbors’ kids or siblings now can slowly build social skills. •

7:30 PM – Dinner: Aim for dinner on the earlier side. Toddlers do well with routine mealtimes. Dinner could be something light and familiar. Eating together as a family at the table is a wonderful habit – your child learns by watching you. Keep screens off and talk about the day (“Did you have fun with your blocks today?”).

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8:30 PM – Bedtime Routine: Winding down for the night is crucial. Follow a predictable bedtime routine: maybe a warm bath or simply washing up, changing into pajamas, then story time. Reading a short bedtime story or singing a lullaby signals that it’s time to sleep. A favorite comfort object (teddy or blanket) and your loving goodnight kiss provide reassurance. By around 9:00 PM, your two-year-old should be asleep, getting the ~11–12 hours of nighttime sleep they need at this age (possibly with one brief awakening).

A consistent routine not only helps your toddler feel secure, it also makes life easier for you as a parent. Of course, life can be unpredictable – but try to anchor the day around these regular meal, nap, and bed times. Rituals like a nightly story or a morning cuddle create happy associations. Families find that when toddlers know what comes next, there are fewer power struggles. (Remember: Flexibility is okay – some days won’t go 1

as planned. But overall, routines and boundaries make toddlers (and parents) happier .)

3. Activities and Toys (with Explanation)

Two-year-olds learn through play – every game or toy is an opportunity to build skills while having fun. Here are some recommended activities and toys for 24-month-olds, and how they benefit your child’s development:

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Colorful Building Blocks: Simple wooden or plastic blocks are fantastic at this age. Your toddler can stack a few blocks (perhaps 4-6 high before it topples). This activity develops fine motor skills and hand-eye coordination, and teaches basic concepts of balance and gravity. More importantly, it fuels creativity – watch as your child proudly exclaims “Tower!” and knocks it down with glee. You can join in by building alongside or making a simple pattern for them to copy.

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Shape Sorters and Puzzles: Toys where the child places shapes into matching holes (circle, square, triangle) or 2-3 piece beginner puzzles are ideal now. They challenge your toddler’s problem-solving abilities and understanding of shapes. At first you might guide their hand to the right spot, but soon they’ll grasp it. Each success (“The circle goes in!”) boosts their confidence. Celebrate these small victories.

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Picture Books & Storytime: Sturdy board books with bright pictures are a must. At 24 months, kids

love books about everyday objects, animals, or simple stories. Reading together not only improves language (every new word they hear counts) but also stretches their attention span bit by bit. Storytime is a powerful activity – research shows that reading to young children builds their 16

vocabulary and thinking skills . Let your child turn pages and point to things. Ask “Where’s the moon?” or “What sound does the cow make?” to engage them. This interactive reading fosters a lifelong love of books.

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Crayons and Scribbling: Give your toddler jumbo crayons or chalk and paper. Don’t expect actual drawings – at 2, it’s all about joyful scribbling! This creative freedom helps develop fine motor control (those little finger muscles needed for writing later) and lets them express themselves. Tape a big sheet of paper to the floor and let them make their “art.” You can even join by drawing simple smiley faces or shapes – they will enjoy the interaction. (Always supervise to prevent wall art or tasting of crayons!)

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Balls and Outdoor Play: A simple ball provides endless fun. Kicking a ball, trying to catch (mostly

just hugging the ball), or rolling it back and forth with you teaches coordination and is great physical exercise. If you have access to a safe open space, let them run – they are working on running faster and changing direction without tumbling. Blowing bubbles outside is another wonderful activity at this age; toddlers will chase and try to catch the bubbles, squealing in delight.

Active play like this not only tires them out (helping sleep later) but also contributes to healthy physical development and motor skills.

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Pretend Play Toys: At 2 years, many children begin pretend play, which is crucial for imagination.

You don’t need fancy toys – everyday objects work too. For instance, a toy telephone enables them to have pretend conversations (“Hello Nani!”), a set of toy dishes could spark a pretend tea party, and a simple doll or stuffed animal can become a “baby” to feed and rock. These toys and games let toddlers experiment with real-life roles and feelings in a safe way. You might witness adorable scenes like your child patting their teddy bear to sleep. This kind of play builds emotional and social understanding (they’re practicing being caring, like you!).

Toy Safety Tip: Ensure all toys are toddler-safe – no sharp edges or small parts that could be choking hazards. At 24 months, children still explore by putting things in their mouth. Always supervise play, especially with art materials or any toy with pieces.

Through these activities, remember the goal is not to “teach” in an academic way, but to let your child explore and learn naturally. Follow their lead and show enthusiasm in whatever they do. Your attention and interaction are the best toys for your toddler – no expensive gadgets needed! Everyday moments like stirring batter in the kitchen or sorting laundry by color can also be turned into learning games. Play, explore, repeat – that’s a toddler’s job description. ��

4. Emotional Care and Parenting Phrases

Two-year-olds have big emotions in tiny bodies. One minute they’re laughing hysterically, the next minute they’re crying because you gave them water in the “wrong” cup. At 24 months, toddlers experience frustration, joy, anger, and fear but lack the self-control and vocabulary to express these feelings calmly. This is where patient emotional care and the right parenting phrases can make a huge difference.

Key Principles for Emotional Care at 24 months:

- Offer Choices to Reduce Frustration: Much of a two-year-old’s tantrums come from wanting independence. Whenever possible, let them make simple choices. For example, instead of saying “Put on your shoes now,” try “Which shoes do you want to wear – red or blue?” This gives them a sense of control. Phrases to use: “You choose,” or “Do you want this or that?” By framing instructions as choices, you often avoid a power struggle (a nifty trick of positive parenting!).

- Use Positive Language: Toddlers respond better to telling them what to do rather than what not to do. Instead of constantly saying “No, no, no,” guide them with positive phrasing. For instance, if your child is jumping on the sofa, you could say: “Feet on the floor, please. Let’s jump on the carpet!” rather than “Don’t jump on the sofa!” This way, you’re still setting a limit (sofa is off-limits for jumping) but providing an acceptable alternative. Common helpful phrases: “Please use gentle hands” (if they’re hitting), “Inside voice, please” (if yelling indoors), or “Walking feet, not running” (if they’re sprinting in a unsafe space). These phrases are firm yet respectful, aligning with gentle discipline.

- Acknowledge and Label Emotions: At 2 years, children can feel deeply but are just starting to learn words like “angry” or “sad.” One of the most powerful tools is to acknowledge their feelings with words. This might feel odd at first, but it works wonders in calming a tantrum. For example, if your toddler is throwing a fit because playtime ended, you might say in a calm voice: “I see you’re upset. You really want to play more and it’s hard to stop. I know.” This simple validation (“I see you’re upset”) helps them feel understood. Naming the emotion (“upset” or “mad”) also builds their emotional vocabulary. Child development experts often call this “name it to tame it” – when toddlers hear words for their intense

feelings, it actually helps them begin to calm down . They realize you “get it.” Over time, they will learn to use these words themselves.

- Stay Calm and Offer Comfort: Tantrums can be very stressful for parents, but remember your child’s brain is still learning to handle big feelings. If you yell back or get very angry, it often escalates their distress. Instead, try to be a steady presence. You can say, “I’m here. I know you’re mad. Take a deep breath with me.” (Demonstrate exaggerated deep breaths – even if they don’t join immediately, they’re learning a coping skill by watching.) Sometimes a gentle touch or hug can help; other times, they might not want touch until they’ve cried it out – follow your child’s cues. The goal is to soothe without immediately giving in to unreasonable demands. For example, if they wanted candy before dinner and are melting down, empathize (“You wish you could have candy now. It’s hard to wait.”) but hold the limit calmly (“Candy after dinner.”). Eventually, the storm will pass. Your patience now teaches them emotional regulation in the long run.

Example Parenting Phrases at 24 Months:

- When toddler is throwing things in anger: “I know you’re angry. It’s okay to be mad, but not okay to throw toys. You can hit this cushion if you need.” (Acknowledges emotion, sets limit, offers alternative outlet.) - When toddler is refusing bedtime: “I hear you say ‘no bed’. You don’t want to sleep because you’re having fun. But it’s time to rest. Let’s choose one book to read. Do you want the animal book or the train book?” (Acknowledges feeling, restates boundary, gives choice.)

- When toddler is scared (e.g., of a loud noise): “That noise was loud! It scared you. But you’re safe, I am here. Shall we go see what it was together?” (Names the fear, reassures safety through presence, encourages coping by exploring together if appropriate.)

- When toddler does something good (like sharing or saying a new word): Use praise focused on effort or behavior, not just “good boy/girl”. E.g., “You tried really hard to stack those blocks, I’m proud of you!” or “Thank you for handing me your cup, that was very helpful!” This positive reinforcement builds their self-esteem and encourages repeat good behavior.

Lastly, pick your battles. A toddler has limited self-control; save the firm “No” for truly unsafe or unacceptable actions (like biting or running into the street). For smaller issues (wearing mismatched socks or wanting to carry a wooden spoon to bed), sometimes it’s okay to let it be. As long as it’s not harmful, allowing some quirky toddler choices can give them a sense of autonomy and avoid unnecessary conflicts.

Your loving guidance, expressed through consistent, gentle words and actions, is teaching your 2-year-old how to navigate their emotional world. It may not seem like it when they’re on the floor wailing, but each time you respond with empathy and clarity, you’re building their brain pathways for trust and self 18

regulation . You’re also strengthening the bond of trust – they learn that Maa or Papa understands me and will keep me safe. This strong emotional bond is the core of Maa Ki Mamta Ka School. ❤

5. Stories and Moral Development

Even at 24 months, your little one is ready to absorb the seeds of moral values – not through lectures, but through simple stories, daily interactions, and gentle guidance. Storytelling is one of the most powerful ways to instill values in young children, as it engages their imagination and emotions. Research suggests that storytelling and reading aloud to young kids not only boost language development but also help them 19

start understanding feelings and empathy . When you tell a toddler a story about sharing or kindness, you are literally helping shape their sense of right and wrong in a very accessible way.

Here’s how you can use stories and other tools to nurture moral development at age 2:

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Bedtime Stories: Make it a habit to read or tell a short story every night. At 24 months, children love

animal stories, tales of friendship, or any story with simple, clear emotions. For example, you could tell the classic story of “The Lion and the Mouse” in a very simplified form – focusing on how the big lion let the little mouse go, and later the mouse helped the lion (introducing the idea of kindness and helping each other). Keep your language simple and animated: “Once upon a time, a big lion caught a tiny mouse. The mouse said, ‘Please let me go.’ The lion was kind and let him go. Later, the lion needed help – and guess who helped? The little mouse! They became friends. Being kind is good. The end.” Your toddler might not catch every nuance, but the warmth and the moral (“being kind is good”) will register over time.

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Picture Books with Morals: There are wonderful toddler-friendly books that teach simple morals –

like stories about sharing toys, telling the truth, or being helpful. For example, a story about a character who doesn’t want to share, but then learns that playing together is more fun, can gently encourage your 2-year-old to share. While reading, point at the characters’ expressions: “Look, the boy is sad because no one will share with him. How can his friend make him happy?” Engage your toddler: even if they can’t fully answer, these conversations link the story to real feelings. Books also help toddlers name emotions (“She is happy now because her friend shared the toy.”).

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Moral Through Everyday Moments: Stories don’t have to only come from books. Everyday life

provides examples. If they snatch a toy from a playmate and the other child cries, afterwards you can gently explain through a mini “story”: “Remember at the park, you took the ball and your friend cried. He felt sad. Next time, we can take turns so everyone is happy.” This is teaching empathy – understanding others’ feelings. At 2, they won’t grasp it immediately, but consistent reinforcement is key. They will slowly learn that actions affect others.

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Use of Songs and Cultural Stories: In India, we have a rich tradition of moral stories (like Panchatantra tales or simple mythological anecdotes) and even nursery rhymes that carry values. A short rhyme like “Achchi Battein” (Good Habits) or “Chubby Cheeks” indirectly teaches routines and positivity. Likewise, you might narrate a quick tale your parents told you – for example, the story of a honest woodcutter (to instill honesty) albeit in an extremely simplified manner or save such tales for when they’re a bit older and more patient. For a 2-year-old, keep stories very short and vivid.

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Repetition and Consistency: Toddlers love hearing the same story again and again. That’s perfectly

fine! Repetition helps them internalize the lessons and language. If your child asks for the same bedtime story every night, oblige happily – those moral messages are sinking in with each retelling. You might find them anticipating and imitating parts of the story (“Mouse helps lion!”) – that’s a great sign of engagement and understanding.

Moral Development at this age is rudimentary – a 2-year-old won’t suddenly become perfectly sharing or patient because of a story. They are naturally self-focused (which is developmentally normal). The goal is just to introduce the concepts of good behavior and empathy in gentle ways. Always model the values yourself: toddlers learn a lot by observing you. Say “please” and “thank you” in daily life, be kind to others, and your child will slowly mirror that. For instance, if you accidentally step on a toy and say, “Oops, I’m sorry, I hurt Teddy,” your child learns about apologizing and caring for others’ feelings.

One more tip: use playacting with toys to teach morals. You can take two teddy bears and act out a very short scene – maybe one teddy grabs the other’s blanket, the second teddy cries, then the first teddy says “Sorry” and hugs. Perform this in front of your toddler. They often find it amusing, but these skits reinforce the ideas of empathy (“Teddy is sad, he needs a sorry and a hug”) and conflict resolution in a way a child can

grasp. Sometimes after seeing you do it, your toddler might repeat the scenario themselves, giving you insight into what they’re learning.

By weaving stories, songs, and examples into daily life, you are slowly but surely laying the groundwork for moral values like kindness, honesty, and sharing. According to child psychologists, young children absorb 20

these lessons best through stories and repetition . Even if they can’t articulate it, they are building a mental library of “right” ways to act. Over the coming months and years, you’ll see those seeds sprout – the first time your child offers a toy to a friend or pats someone who’s upset, you’ll know the stories and your guidance have started to bloom.

6. Parental Mistakes to Avoid

Every parent, especially of a toddler, has moments of self-doubt and frustration. It’s important to remember that nobody is perfect, and making mistakes is part of the journey. That said, being aware of common pitfalls can help you avoid or correct them. Here are some parental mistakes to watch out for (and tips on what to do instead) during the 24-month stage:

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Comparing Your Child to Others: In India, well-meaning relatives might ask, “Is he speaking sentences yet? My neighbor’s grandson is.” It’s easy to fall into the comparison trap – don’t. Every child develops at their own pace. Constantly comparing your 2-year-old to another (or to an older sibling) can create unnecessary anxiety and may make the child feel inadequate. For example, telling a toddler “Look at how nicely Neha sits, why can’t you?” doesn’t motivate them – it might actually hurt their self-esteem. Instead: Appreciate your child’s individual progress. Celebrate what they can do (“Wow, you learned to put on your shoes!”) and be patient with areas where they need time. If someone compares in front of the child, gently redirect: “All kids are different, and our little one is doing great in her own way.”

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Too Many “No’s” (Overusing Negatives): Saying “no” is often necessary with curious toddlers, but if a child hears “No, don’t do that” all day long, they either get very upset or start tuning it out. An environment with constant negatives can also make them more defiant or anxious. Solution: Try to child-proof the environment so you have to say “no” less often. For example, remove fragile items from reach, put locks on cabinets, cover plug points. This way, your toddler can explore more freely in safe zones. When you do need to stop a behavior, use the positive phrasing approach as discussed earlier (telling them what they can do instead of just “no”). Save firm “No!” for truly dangerous situations (like running on the road or touching something hot), so they learn that no means no in those cases.

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Giving In to Tantrums Consistently: We’ve all been there – your child is wailing in the middle of the store because they want a chocolate bar, and finally you hand it over just to get some peace. While understandable occasionally, making it a habit teaches the wrong lesson. If every time they throw a fit, they get what they wanted, the toddler learns “Tantrum = I win.” This can lead to bigger power struggles down the line. Tip: Try to stay calm and firm during tantrums. Acknowledge feelings (“I know you’re upset”), but hold the limit if it’s important (for instance, not buying a toy every shopping trip). Once they calm down even a bit, you can comfort and distract with something else. Over time, they’ll learn that screaming isn’t the way to get things. Consistency here is key – if you say no to candy after one cry but yes after ten minutes of screaming, guess what, they’ll scream ten minutes next time. It’s tough in the moment, but staying consistent will reduce the frequency of tantrums as they figure out boundaries.

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Harsh Discipline (Yelling or Spanking): In moments of extreme frustration, some parents resort to

yelling loudly or even a quick spank. However, research has shown that physical punishment or 21 22

harsh verbal punishment is harmful and not effective in the long run . Spanking or hitting a child can make them fearful, aggressive, or damage the parent-child trust. Yelling frequently can also scare a toddler or teach them to shout back. Better Approach: Use gentle but firm discipline. For dangerous behavior (like biting or hitting someone), intervene immediately with a stern voice: “No biting. Biting hurts. We do gentle touches.” Show them how to touch gently. For other misbehavior, consequences at this age should be immediate and related – e.g., if they throw food, meal time is over; if they keep throwing a toy at someone, take the toy away for a short time. Always explain briefly: “I’m taking this because you threw it. We can try again later.” Remember to never hit your child – if you feel at a breaking point, it’s okay to ensure the child is safe in a crib or with someone and step away for a few deep breaths. You’re only human, and taking a “time-out” for yourself to cool down is far better than lashing out. (If you ever do yell or handle roughly, apologize afterward in a simple way: “Mama shouted because she was upset. I’m sorry. I will try to use a calm voice.” This models taking responsibility for mistakes.)

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Inconsistency in Rules: Toddlers are little scientists – they test limits often. If sometimes you enforce a rule and other times you let it slide, it confuses them. For example, if one day you don’t allow jumping on the couch but another day you’re too tired and ignore it, the child gets mixed messages. They may push more to see when the rule applies. Advice: Try to be consistent with important rules (health, safety, respect). It’s okay to be flexible on small things or change routines occasionally, but when it comes to core boundaries, both parents/caregivers should ideally be on the same page and enforce similarly. Consistency makes toddlers feel secure – the world is predictable. It actually reduces their frustration because they know what to expect from you.

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Neglecting Self-Care: This mistake is indirect but real – when parents, especially mothers, run

themselves ragged without rest or support, stress builds up. A burnt-out parent is more prone to irritability, less patience, and could inadvertently make parenting “mistakes” like those above. Remember that Maa Ki Mamta Ka School also requires the teacher (you) to be cared for. Take breaks when you can. Ask a family member to watch the child for an hour while you nap or take a walk. Don’t feel guilty for occasionally needing time off – recharging your own batteries helps you be a more loving, present parent. In the long run, this benefits your toddler immensely.

Nobody gets it right all the time, so if you catch yourself doing one of these things, forgive yourself and course-correct. The fact that you’re reading this and trying shows you’re a conscientious parent. Parenting is a learning process (even for the parent!), and your child is forgiving and resilient. With love, consistency, and awareness, you can avoid these common pitfalls most of the time – and when you don’t, you can repair and try again. That’s the beauty of parenthood: every day is a new chance to learn and grow together with your child.

7. Maa Ki Class (Weekly Reflections & Science-Backed Advice)

Maa Ki Class is a special segment at the end of each chapter – a moment for you, the parent, to reflect and recharge emotionally. Think of it as a brief weekly “class” where we share supportive thoughts, a sprinkle of science, and heartfelt encouragement, just as a mother’s support group or wise dadi-maa (grandmother) might offer. You might read this at the start of each week during your child’s 24th month to center yourself. Here’s your Maa Ki Class for the 24-month stage:

Week 1: Reflection – Embrace the New Chapter: Take a moment to acknowledge how far you’ve come. Two years ago, you were cradling a newborn; now you’re keeping up with a lively toddler! It’s normal to feel a

mix of pride (“We made it through the baby stage!”) and nostalgia (“My baby is growing up so fast”). Embrace this new chapter with optimism. Scientific insight: At 2 years old, your child’s brain is undergoing 23

an explosion of connections – over a million neural connections per second . It’s as if their brain is a little school, absorbing everything. Your love and interactions are literally shaping their brain. Isn’t that amazing? Every hug, every word of encouragement, every game of peekaboo – it all contributes to healthier brain development. So when you’re tired, remember: the love you invest now pays dividends for life.

Week 2: Self-Care – A Happy Mom/Dad Equals a Happy Child: This week, set aside at least a small pocket of “me time.” Maybe enjoy a quiet cup of chai during your child’s nap or call a friend while someone watches the baby. Don’t underestimate the power of these small breaks. Research in parenting psychology emphasizes that when caregivers manage stress and feel supported, they can respond better to their 24 25

children’s needs . So taking care of yourself is not selfish – it’s actually one of the best things you can do for your child. Also, consider starting a simple “Gratitude or Joy Journal.” Each night, jot down one cute or funny thing your toddler did that day (like the way they said a new word or danced to a song). This practice can help shift focus to the positive moments amid the chaos, keeping you emotionally resilient.

Week 3: Patience – Your Superpower this Month: Two-year-olds will test your patience in new ways – it’s almost guaranteed! This week, be mindful of your own triggers. Is it meal refusals? The endless messes? Identify one thing that really frustrates you. Now, brainstorm a coping strategy for it. For example, if meal mess drives you crazy, remind yourself that exploring food texture is normal at this age (maybe use a plastic mat under the high chair to ease clean-up). If constant “no” from your toddler wears you down, try turning it into a game (e.g., “Can Mama say No like a cat? Me-ow!” – a silly distraction). There’s science here too: studies show toddlers have very limited impulse control because the front part of their brain (in charge of 18

self-control) is still under construction . They are not giving you a hard time on purpose; they are having a hard time managing themselves. Keeping this perspective can refill your patience when it’s running low. You are the adult with the mature brain – they borrow your calm until they can develop their own. Take a deep breath, count to ten – and remember your superpower of patience is growing each time you choose calm over anger.

Week 4: Celebrate Effort, Not Perfection: In Maa Ki Mamta Ka School, there are no grades – but if there were, both you and your toddler would get A+ for effort! This week, focus on the process, not the outcome. Did your little one try to say a difficult word, even if it came out funny? Clap for them! Did you attempt a new recipe for them, even if it ended up messy? Give yourself a pat on the back. Psychologists talk about the importance of a “growth mindset” – praising effort teaches children (and us) that it’s okay to make mistakes 22

and try again . Instead of saying “You’re so smart,” say “You worked so hard on that puzzle!” Apply the same to yourself: not “I’m a bad parent because bedtime was late,” but “We had a tough evening, but I stayed patient through the bedtime struggle – well done.” Each week, each day even, find those small victories. Jot them in your journal or share with your partner. Parenthood is not about being perfect; it’s about showing up with love, day after day. And you’re doing exactly that.

You’ve got this! The journey from 24 to 36 months will have its ups and downs, but you are not alone. Through these reflections, research, and your own intuition, you are equipped to handle whatever comes. Whenever in doubt, return to the two pillars: love and consistency. With those as your guide, you are already an incredible parent, providing the ultimate mamta (love) and life lessons in your child’s first school – the home.

(Maa Ki Class message for 24 months: “Cherish the now, take care of yourself, and trust the process – both you and your child are learning together.”)

8. Charts or Trackers (for Month 24)

In this first month of the guide, a simple tracker can help you observe and encourage your toddler’s development. You don’t need anything fancy; even a homemade chart on paper stuck to the fridge works. Here are a couple of ideas for 24 months:

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Milestone Checklist/Diary: Create a basic chart with columns for Physical, Language, Cognitive,

Social and list some 2-year milestones under each (from the milestone section above). For example, under Language you might have entries like “Says 2-word phrases”, “Names 5+ everyday objects”. Under Physical: “Kicks a ball”, “Runs without falling often”. Each time you notice your child doing one of these, put a date or a sticker next to it. This isn’t a test for the child – it’s a joyful way for you to record “firsts” and progress. By tracking, you become more aware of their growth. And if a milestone isn’t met yet, you know what to gently work on or mention to the pediatrician. (Remember, every child’s timeline is unique – charts are tools, not judgments.)

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Daily Routine Picture Chart: At 24 months, toddlers can’t read, but they understand pictures. You

can draw or print simple icons for key parts of the routine (a sun for morning, a cereal bowl for breakfast, a ball for playtime, a book for story, a bed for sleep, etc.). Arrange them in order on a paper and point to each as you go through the day. For example, in the morning show the breakfast picture and say “Now it’s breakfast time.” Later point to the bed picture: “Soon it will be night-night time.” This visual schedule helps your toddler grasp the concept of routine and what comes next. It makes abstract time more concrete for them. You can even involve your child by letting them put a sticker or move a clothespin on the chart as each activity is done, giving them a sense of achievement (“Yay, we finished lunch – now nap time!”). It’s the toddler equivalent of a day planner and can reduce tantrums due to sudden transitions.

Both these charts reinforce the structure and milestones we’ve discussed, and they add an element of fun (what toddler doesn’t love stickers?). As the months progress, we’ll suggest new charts or adapt these to new skills like potty training or daily chores. For now, keep it simple and enjoyable. Maybe use colorful markers or your toddler’s help in decorating the chart with doodles. The goal is to make parenting a bit easier for you and learning tangible for the child.

Next up, in Chapter 2 (25 Months), we’ll build upon this foundation. You’ll start to see small but significant changes as your toddler heads into the middle of the “twos.” Until then, keep nurturing, keep playing, and remember to steal hugs from your little one – they might be growing fast, but they will always remain your baby.

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(In Chapter 2, we will address the next month’s milestones and routines, continuing the structure established above. The content will reflect changes observed at 25 months, such as slightly more advanced language, emerging pretend play scenarios, etc., following the same subheading format.)

... (The book would continue with chapters 2 through 13, each following the outline: developmental milestones of that month, adjustments in routine such as nap changes or new foods, new appropriate activities and toys, evolving emotional needs and phrases as language improves – for instance by 30 months using pronouns “I, 26

me” – stories addressing slightly more complex concepts, different parental mistakes to avoid at that stage (like over-scheduling or screen time issues emerging), “Maa Ki Class” reflections with age-appropriate insights (e.g., around 30 months discussing consistency as toddler tests limits, around 36 months discussing preparing for preschool), and suggested charts like a potty training chart around 28-30 months, a sleep-sticker chart or a good behavior star chart by 3 years, etc.)

(Each chapter will maintain the warm, encouraging tone and Indian cultural context, with scientific references sprinkled as shown. Imagery such as including an embedded image of a toddler’s artwork or a mother-child hug can be used in later chapters to maintain visual interest and brand connection.)

Chapter 13: 36 Months – Turning Three

(This final chapter will cover the cusp of 3 years, summarizing the child’s readiness for preschool, more developed speech, better motor skills like tricycle pedaling, interactive play with peers, and emotional development such as beginning to manage feelings a bit better. It will celebrate the “graduation” from toddlerhood. The “Maa Ki Class” here will be a heartfelt reflection on the journey from 2 to 3, preparing the parent for the next stage (preschooler years) with confidence and reminding them that their love and lessons so far have built a strong foundation. Charts might include a keepsake growth chart or a routine checklist for preschool readiness.)

Conclusion

Congratulations – both you and your child have completed the wonderful journey of Maa Ki Mamta Ka School for 2–3 years! As you close this guide, take a moment to look back on all the growth, learning, and love that filled the past year. From that energetic 24-month-old who was just starting to put two words together, you now have a curious, expressive 3-year-old who likely chatters in little sentences, runs faster, plays harder, and perhaps tells you stories of their own making. And you, dear parent, have grown in confidence, wisdom, and patience. You have been the guiding light through tantrums and triumphs alike.

In this concluding section, let’s summarize a few key takeaways and prepare for the road ahead:

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Your Toddler’s Progress: Over the last 12+ months, you’ve witnessed countless milestones – some big (like speaking in sentences or being potty-trained, if achieved), and some small (like mastering a spoon or saying thank you unprompted). Each child’s timeline is unique, but surely your child has bloomed in their own amazing way. Remember the global insight we shared at the beginning: by 2

age 3, a child’s brain is about 80% of adult size . These early experiences have literally grown their brain. And it wasn’t fancy flashcards or expensive classes that made the biggest impact – it was you.

Your responsive talks, your hugs during meltdowns, your daily play and stories, those were the “lessons” that built their mind and heart.

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Empowered Parenting: Unskoolify’s mission was to empower you through skill-based, activity

based, and value-based parenting. Flip through the chapters and you’ll find that you implemented this mission in real life. You taught skills through playful daily tasks (like involving your child in dressing themselves or cleaning up toys). You fostered development with activities (from art projects to outdoor adventures) and you nurtured values through stories and gentle guidance. Most importantly, you did it in a loving, connected way – the essence of mamta. This is a huge achievement. Research consistently shows that children with warm, responsive, and consistent

parenting go on to have better social skills, emotional resilience, and even academic success

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. By following this path, you have given your child a priceless start.

Challenges Overcome: Think of some challenges that once loomed large and are now handled – maybe it was getting your toddler to sleep through the night, or reducing bottle-feeding, or curbing biting behavior. It likely felt overwhelming at the time, but with patience and the strategies you tried (perhaps a routine tweak here, a new phrase there, a calm-down corner, etc.), many issues got resolved. There will always be new challenges (hello, preschool years!), but now you know you can handle them. The confidence and problem-solving skills you’ve gained will serve you in the years to come. And always remember, it’s okay to ask for help – from family, pediatricians, or teachers. In Maa Ki Mamta Ka School, the community is part of the classroom too.

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The Next Chapter – Preschooler Years: As your child steps into the 3-4 year age range, new adventures await. You might be thinking about play school or nursery admission; your “baby” will soon have a little life independent of you for a few hours a day. It’s normal if your heart feels a pinch – they’re growing up! But this is also a proud moment: the values and confidence you’ve instilled will help them adjust to school. They’ll make friends (and perhaps start using those sharing skills you taught), they’ll sing new songs, and come home each day with stories that begin with “Guess what I did!” Your role will gradually shift from doing everything for them to standing back a bit and watching them try for themselves, intervening only when needed. It’s a beautiful change – like a teacher watching their favorite student graduate to the next grade. And of course, your child will still need your guidance and the safe haven of your love as much as ever. Maa Ki Mamta Ka School doesn’t end – it just evolves.

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Lifetime Bond: Above all, recognize that the bond you’ve built with your child in these formative

years is for life. The trust, the open communication, the empathy – these are foundations that will carry through into their childhood, teens, and adulthood. A 3-year-old who knows that Mama and Papa listen to their feelings and are always there for a hug is more likely to come to you with their bigger problems at 13, and to care for you at 30. By investing this time and love now, you’ve created

a relationship that is strong and special. No matter what the future holds, that connection will be your family’s rock.

On a practical note, as you finish this eBook, you might consider keeping it handy for reference. Parenting isn’t a straight line; sometimes a regression happens (like a potty-trained child having accidents when a new sibling arrives, or a good sleeper suddenly resisting bedtime). In those moments, revisiting relevant chapters can remind you of strategies and reassure you that you’re not alone – these phases pass. And feel free to share this guide with your spouse, grandparents, or other caregivers so everyone is on the same page in terms of approach and routines.

Unskoolify is honored to be part of your parenting journey. Maa Ki Mamta Ka School was founded on the belief that empowered parents raise empowered children. By choosing love, patience, and informed strategies, you have exemplified what that means. You’ve shown that a home filled with warmth and guided

by knowledge is the best school a child can have in early years. As your child moves on to formal schooling or new experiences, continue to be their biggest cheerleader and safe harbor. The specific techniques might change with age, but the underlying principles remain: listen, love, guide, and let them lead when they’re ready.

In closing, give yourself a big hug (yes, you, the parent!). You have done a fantastic job and earned an A+ in parenting this year. Your dil (heart) and dimaag (mind) worked in harmony – mamta (affection) and methodology – to nurture a tiny human being. That is nothing short of extraordinary.

As your little one leaps into year three and beyond, we wish you lots of joy, fewer worries, and the continuing wonder of watching a child grow. There will be days of chaos and days of calm, but every day will be a little better because of the strong start you’ve given. Remember the slogan: “Learning begins at home.” With you by their side, your child has a bright, beautiful future ahead.

Happy Parenting, and all the best from the Unskoolify family! ��

(Turn the page to perhaps find a few appendices like sample trackers or a list of “Top 10 Books for Toddlers” or a glossary of parenting terms if needed, and then the footers/credits.)

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